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The real culprit isn’t porn, it is mainly the change in societal expectations and the ease of changing your baseline expectations. Our relationships have become
by mercy_dude 4y ago
The real culprit isn’t porn, it is mainly the change in societal expectations and the ease of changing your baseline expectations. Our relationships have become extremely disposable. You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Dating websites and apps largely have the same problems.
- yobbo 4y ago> You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Is this reality for the HN audience?
- pknopf 4y agoHyperbolic, but yeah.
- matt321 4y agoThe HN audience is probably all mega-genius super chads
- xxs 4y agolikely richer than average, though...
- eropple 4y agoI'd bet that how much money you have (beyond a low bar of "enough") matters a lot less for the American dating pool than being able to make somebody laugh.
- lucaspm98 4y agoOne hypothesis of a contributor to falling marriage rates is that as women's income potential has risen there's still a standard (whether cultural or innate) for them to marry "up" economically. Therefore, there's a growing demographic shortage of economically attractive male partners in the U.S. marriage market. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jomf.12603 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jomf.12603
- eropple 4y agoTo me a rather more reasonable take than "women are coached or born to flock to money" is "the world is going to hell, economic precarity is making it scarier to tie two people to a particular geography for work, and the future looks grim enough that having kids is probably a bad idea, so why get married?". My priors probably differ from yours, though.
- zihotki 4y agoIs HN audience anyhow different?
- someotherperson 4y agoThis is the reality of dating in 2022. It doesn't mean you're the one in control, however, as this holds true if you're the one being dumped too.
- DigiDigiorno 4y agoThe HN age demographic seems older than most online communities. If they aren't using apps for quick thrills, they are moving to the Villages and using an upside-down pineapple as an ironic bat signal for some fruitless copulation.
- globular-toast 4y agoEven as a mid-30s male HN reader I've been able to get another relationship months after my previous one failed. I'm sick of it, though. I don't want to lose this one. I didn't want to lose the last one either.
- sydd 4y agoIMO this is a different issue. If you change your partner say every week it doesnt mean that you have less sex. Also in my (limited) experience the "swinger" type people who constantly cheat (=more sex) or just have one night relationships (=more sex) are a small subset of the population.