My maternal grandfather is 95 and his attitude is similar. Meanwhile my father gets into one bad deal after another. That being said the former is, for lack of

My maternal grandfather is 95 and his attitude is similar. Meanwhile my father gets into one bad deal after another. That being said the former is, for lack of a better word, a minimalist, while the latter seized an opportunity to move out from a back then communist state and make enough money to buy property with cash. I grew up utterly confused on how to conduct myself.