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>I did give her an old laptop but when the link to "her email" webpage was moved by the ISP she got the error message "It looks like your page has been moved."

>I did give her an old laptop but when the link to "her email" webpage was moved by the ISP she got the error message "It looks like your page has been moved." Innocuous enough error message right? >But this caused her to freak out as clearly "someone" was watching and knew what "her" page was. Ergo "someone" was watching her on the internet. So she turned off the laptop and never opened it again. >On the one hand, she has mental health issues including paranoia. On the other hand, she wasn't wrong! I would call this an accessibility issue, and a failure by the ISP to maintain access for someone who has trouble adjusting to changes in the user interface.

_carbyau_ 4y ago
While true, there is: "You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time" For simply changing their webmail page, most of us would adjust pretty quick. If I had been quick enough I could've simply updated her link and she never would have known. But when mental health comes to paranoia, doing things behind her back is a sure way to get offside. I have zero issues with what happened, it is life.
- forgotmypw17 4y ago
  Would you say that building wheelchair ramps is also a waste of time, because you can't please everyone all the time, and they're only a small percentage of the population?
  - _carbyau_ 4y ago
    You are arguing shades of grey. 1. You only have so much effort to spend. 2. You won't be able to please everyone with it. IE result. Sure, for any large enough building (significant effort anyway to spend!) expecting a reasonable chunk of the population through the door a wheelchair ramp(decent chunk of populace affected) should be du jour. Hell, it is a wheelchair ramp not rocket science, I'd be happy to see them in a home building code for anywhere 2 or 3 steps are used. Little extra effort over the alternative (stairs) and get a result. Alternately, I love my mum but it is unreasonable to expect the world to bend to meet the sheer levels of disconnection-from-reality that mental health paranoia can go to. We can't treat everyone like they are Truman from the Truman Show. People have to be able to cope with change. When they can't, it is sad. But the world will keep changing anyway.
    - forgotmypw17 4y ago
      "The world" may keep changing, but "my applications" will continue to bend over backwards to accommodate every scenario I can imagine.
      - _carbyau_ 4y ago
        I'm glad people like you exist and want to make the world a better place for everyone you possibly can. I suspect you will continue to find ways your applications are not received in the context you hoped. But is also an opportunity to do better which it seems you might enjoy. I also think you won't be financially competitive in the larger world. And while I'd love a world where this doesn't matter, money makes the world go around until humanity as a whole can figure out how to do better. So I don't think many will follow your path. I honestly wish you the best to make it all work. For my own part, I will continue to try and leave contexts I am involved in better than I found them.

_carbyau_ 4y ago

While true, there is: "You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time" For simply changing their webmail page, most of us would adjust pretty quick. If I had been quick enough I could've simply updated her link and she never would have known. But when mental health comes to paranoia, doing things behind her back is a sure way to get offside. I have zero issues with what happened, it is life.

forgotmypw17 4y ago
Would you say that building wheelchair ramps is also a waste of time, because you can't please everyone all the time, and they're only a small percentage of the population?
- _carbyau_ 4y ago
  You are arguing shades of grey. 1. You only have so much effort to spend. 2. You won't be able to please everyone with it. IE result. Sure, for any large enough building (significant effort anyway to spend!) expecting a reasonable chunk of the population through the door a wheelchair ramp(decent chunk of populace affected) should be du jour. Hell, it is a wheelchair ramp not rocket science, I'd be happy to see them in a home building code for anywhere 2 or 3 steps are used. Little extra effort over the alternative (stairs) and get a result. Alternately, I love my mum but it is unreasonable to expect the world to bend to meet the sheer levels of disconnection-from-reality that mental health paranoia can go to. We can't treat everyone like they are Truman from the Truman Show. People have to be able to cope with change. When they can't, it is sad. But the world will keep changing anyway.
  - forgotmypw17 4y ago
    "The world" may keep changing, but "my applications" will continue to bend over backwards to accommodate every scenario I can imagine.
    - _carbyau_ 4y ago
      I'm glad people like you exist and want to make the world a better place for everyone you possibly can. I suspect you will continue to find ways your applications are not received in the context you hoped. But is also an opportunity to do better which it seems you might enjoy. I also think you won't be financially competitive in the larger world. And while I'd love a world where this doesn't matter, money makes the world go around until humanity as a whole can figure out how to do better. So I don't think many will follow your path. I honestly wish you the best to make it all work. For my own part, I will continue to try and leave contexts I am involved in better than I found them.