Apple only controls my phone and playlists in the Music app (from time to time I export them to have a backup, but only because the Music app is absolutely dumb

Apple only controls my phone and playlists in the Music app (from time to time I export them to have a backup, but only because the Music app is absolutely dumb in syncing). From my example, you can see that you have a choice about what you want to be controlled by Apple.