All you need is a simple formula: Figure out roughly how much time and headspace you need for pleasure/leisure/quality time with people, idleness etc. The rest

All you need is a simple formula: Figure out roughly how much time and headspace you need for pleasure/leisure/quality time with people, idleness etc. The rest of your time is spent on providing for you and yours, then bettering the world, in that order. Do these things and realize that if bad things nevertheless happen, they were always beyond your control. Work on not stressing about that which is beyond your control. Don't suffer tragedies twice over. If providing for you and yours does not leave enough room for happiness, you are in Crisis Mode. Happiness will not be achievable in this time. In this mode, your highest priority after doing what needs doing is to exit the crisis situation. Disclaimer: this is somewhat tongue in cheek. I do believe this is the right way to live, but it's very much easier said than done.