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Hey there. I know exactly what you mean and why you are going through this. This is the fate of very talented AND moral/just/fair people – who work in a social

Hey there. I know exactly what you mean and why you are going through this. This is the fate of very talented AND moral/just/fair people – who work in a social environment where there is no social equality. For reference: I worked in India where the average monthly salary is much lower than what you said. Curse of being talented/rewarded, when you walk/bike through the streets where everyone is struggling to live, and the government doesn't care and all your tax dollars go to waste. Do any of the following. It will make you feel better: * Donate, small but regularly. Know a school for disadvantaged kids nearby, or a facility for elderly? Donate them $250/month. You will immediately feel better. You don't neeed to spend time for this, just do it. * Or volunteer. Spend a few months in a country more desperate than your current country. Contact your local UNICEF or Red Cross and volunteer as a consultant. You don't need any special skills. If you can take care of your own expenses (food, travel) – they will be happy to fit you in any of their programmes. You will need to invest time for this. * Or last but contentious: Move to a country where your tax dollars are properly used and you can personally see it in your eyes as society being more equitable and harmonious. I'm talking about Europe. You won't feel the urge to correct an imbalance when your tax dollars already work for society. You feel morally repugnant to be rich in a poor society. There is nothing wrong about feeling that way. It makes you a real human. Don't try to cure yourself out of it. Just act on it. Do what can be reasonably done within your individual reach. Edit: minor grammar.

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rdsubhas 4y ago
I passed the edit window. I missed what you said about your close family and relatives. So maybe I understood wrong, you're worried about your future. This is also true. Yes, in places with lower social equality – higher pay does not lead to less anxiety, on the contrary it leads to more. No amount of earning will feel enough when there are zero social nets for people around you. People earning much lesser but in environments with good social nets are less anxious about their future. In this case, I would recommend what the others recommend: Find a shoulder to cry on, and keep chugginng along. Therapists, trusted friends, relatives – people whom you can trust and vent your insecurities safely on. Remember, people earning lower have it even worse.
piva00 4y ago
I wanted to chime in as I relate a lot to your points but coming from the other side of the globe: Brazil. I grew up in a lower middle class family, which in Brazil means that we had enough money to not get desperate about feeding our family and having a roof over our heads. No other luxuries, we never travelled as a family, my parents never really took vacations, etc. Still, it was a pretty comfortable life compared to the really poor people (50+% of society). I was just lucky to have programming as a hobby since I was a kid and lucking out getting a job early in life (15-16 years old). I feel so much better living in Sweden while donating to good charity projects in Brazil, helping my family however I can financially and living a decent life, seeing my tax money being well invested in public goods, etc. I absolutely support all of your points, they helped me fight this inner struggle of not feeling I deserved to be so well paid in a society that is generally so poor. I felt guilty a lot of times and at the same time frustrated with so many aspects of Brazilian society, I had to move out.

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rdsubhas 4y ago

I passed the edit window. I missed what you said about your close family and relatives. So maybe I understood wrong, you're worried about your future. This is also true. Yes, in places with lower social equality – higher pay does not lead to less anxiety, on the contrary it leads to more. No amount of earning will feel enough when there are zero social nets for people around you. People earning much lesser but in environments with good social nets are less anxious about their future. In this case, I would recommend what the others recommend: Find a shoulder to cry on, and keep chugginng along. Therapists, trusted friends, relatives – people whom you can trust and vent your insecurities safely on. Remember, people earning lower have it even worse.

piva00 4y ago

I wanted to chime in as I relate a lot to your points but coming from the other side of the globe: Brazil. I grew up in a lower middle class family, which in Brazil means that we had enough money to not get desperate about feeding our family and having a roof over our heads. No other luxuries, we never travelled as a family, my parents never really took vacations, etc. Still, it was a pretty comfortable life compared to the really poor people (50+% of society). I was just lucky to have programming as a hobby since I was a kid and lucking out getting a job early in life (15-16 years old). I feel so much better living in Sweden while donating to good charity projects in Brazil, helping my family however I can financially and living a decent life, seeing my tax money being well invested in public goods, etc. I absolutely support all of your points, they helped me fight this inner struggle of not feeling I deserved to be so well paid in a society that is generally so poor. I felt guilty a lot of times and at the same time frustrated with so many aspects of Brazilian society, I had to move out.