You're basically saying it's a choice to live with someone you love, and to raise someone you love, and you should only do so if you are already financially sta

You're basically saying it's a choice to live with someone you love, and to raise someone you love, and you should only do so if you are already financially stable. If I chose to live with and marry the love of my life, and the results is that I live paycheck to paycheck, is that still a choice? I already said that we BOTH work second jobs to pay for our choice, and I'd argue your comment degrades the troubles that my family is going through to achieve our goals with the money that we're working hard for. I can see people viewing the cost of IVF and seeing it as being wasteful, but when you're in this situation and you've been trying for 5+ years, it's a hard feeling and situation to convey. And ultimately, I find it unfair to say a couple that naturally has a child is "forced" to pay for daycare -- and that is acceptable... but a family who wants to have a child can't pay near the same amount to have the child they want -- that's a choice!....