Yes exactly. One of the really destabilizing things about them is that each individual event is pretty much deniable or dismissable, even to the person receivin

Yes exactly. One of the really destabilizing things about them is that each individual event is pretty much deniable or dismissable, even to the person receiving it. They can only be noticed as a pattern over time, and even then it's subtle. And since no one gets to experience life as anyone else, it's very hard to gauge whether you are having more negative experiences than other people. Maybe it's all in my head. Maybe this is normal, everyone is treated this way, I just need to grow a thicker skin, stop overreacting. Maybe I'm imagining it. Maybe I deserve to be treated this way. The fact that it's such a subtle, barely perceptible pattern makes it worse. Hard enough to convince yourself it's happening sometimes, definitely not worth the effort of trying to get other people to see when they've decided not to.