> most people do just fine with any partner which meets some set of minimal values, followed by growing together and overcoming obstacles I can't help but wond

> most people do just fine with any partner which meets some set of minimal values, followed by growing together and overcoming obstacles I can't help but wonder how many of these couples -- who decided to marry without having mutual care, validation, respect, and attraction to one another beforehand -- are actually happy (let alone content) and not cheating on or otherwise abusing one another.