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Taking this hypothetical in good faith how can it possible that one can work with a co worker who believes they are subhuman? A co worker who hates me for writi

Taking this hypothetical in good faith how can it possible that one can work with a co worker who believes they are subhuman? A co worker who hates me for writing code they don’t like makes things like 360 reviews dicey, but a co worker who literally wants my death would make me concerned for every pr and 1:1.

dubswithus 4y ago
What makes you think you aren't working with a group of such people now? I take comfort in not knowing the opinions and life philosophies of my coworkers. I need to compartmentalize some things so that I can continue paying my bills.
- jakelazaroff 4y ago
  If you learned that you definitely were working with such a person, would that not color the relationship?
  - dubswithus 4y ago
    Definitely? As in they don't know how to keep their opinions to themselves? That seems to be a separate issue and employees should be coached on this to ensure harmony and prevent witch hunts. I'm a left wing liberal and atheist but many of my friends are far right conservatives. The easiest way to avoid conflict is to not engage. I learned that when I was in high school.
- SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
  I mean Im not currently in that situation, and my post is genuinely saying I don’t know what I would do if I was. I can’t imagine being okay with it. Like every interaction with that co worker would become suspect regardless of apparent innocence.
Fargoan 4y ago
I'm saying, how do you know they think this? If they're bringing it up at work then it's a problem. But if their beliefs aren't brought up at work then how do you even know? If you're hanging out with people from work when you're off the clock then I don't think anything said or done off the clock should affect anything going on at work.
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- SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
  Genuinely: does this mean there are ways someone finds out that a co worker wants them dead that are more acceptable? I can’t imagine a scenario where how I found out would make me somehow okay with it? Like even if I found out by accident, during a drunken happy hour, maybe by an accidentally coming across their Twitter or something, I still can’t imagine being able to go to work and not being affected.
  - Fargoan 4y ago
    Yeah that's fine. If they didn't make any threats and they aren't harassing anyone then so what? People are allowed to believe whatever weird thing they want as long as they don't act on it. If you didn't find out in the workplace then it's none of your employer's business and they should leave it be. Unless this person is doing something that gives bad PR to the business then I don't see why it's an issue.
    - zen_1 4y ago
      I'm waiting eagerly for the day when these people discover that religions and religious people exist
    - SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
      Well that’s the thing. Now I don’t know if any interaction I’ve had with them is because of me as a person vs me as a dehumanized thing. Was that nitpick in my codebase…? What about that comment in my 360 review…? Was I left out of a shoutout intentionally or was it just a slip of the mind?

dubswithus 4y ago

What makes you think you aren't working with a group of such people now? I take comfort in not knowing the opinions and life philosophies of my coworkers. I need to compartmentalize some things so that I can continue paying my bills.

jakelazaroff 4y ago
If you learned that you definitely were working with such a person, would that not color the relationship?
- dubswithus 4y ago
  Definitely? As in they don't know how to keep their opinions to themselves? That seems to be a separate issue and employees should be coached on this to ensure harmony and prevent witch hunts. I'm a left wing liberal and atheist but many of my friends are far right conservatives. The easiest way to avoid conflict is to not engage. I learned that when I was in high school.
SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
I mean Im not currently in that situation, and my post is genuinely saying I don’t know what I would do if I was. I can’t imagine being okay with it. Like every interaction with that co worker would become suspect regardless of apparent innocence.

Fargoan 4y ago

I'm saying, how do you know they think this? If they're bringing it up at work then it's a problem. But if their beliefs aren't brought up at work then how do you even know? If you're hanging out with people from work when you're off the clock then I don't think anything said or done off the clock should affect anything going on at work.

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SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
Genuinely: does this mean there are ways someone finds out that a co worker wants them dead that are more acceptable? I can’t imagine a scenario where how I found out would make me somehow okay with it? Like even if I found out by accident, during a drunken happy hour, maybe by an accidentally coming across their Twitter or something, I still can’t imagine being able to go to work and not being affected.
- Fargoan 4y ago
  Yeah that's fine. If they didn't make any threats and they aren't harassing anyone then so what? People are allowed to believe whatever weird thing they want as long as they don't act on it. If you didn't find out in the workplace then it's none of your employer's business and they should leave it be. Unless this person is doing something that gives bad PR to the business then I don't see why it's an issue.
  - zen_1 4y ago
    I'm waiting eagerly for the day when these people discover that religions and religious people exist
  - SamoyedFurFluff 4y ago
    Well that’s the thing. Now I don’t know if any interaction I’ve had with them is because of me as a person vs me as a dehumanized thing. Was that nitpick in my codebase…? What about that comment in my 360 review…? Was I left out of a shoutout intentionally or was it just a slip of the mind?