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30 y.o. male, (ex-)Russia. First time I went on a date I was 23 years old. Before that with all the studying and work I had no time whatsoever for any kind of
by therusskiy 4y ago
30 y.o. male, (ex-)Russia.
First time I went on a date I was 23 years old. Before that with all the studying and work I had no time whatsoever for any kind of a relationship.
Some people on this thread bring up that dating let's you develop a skill. In my experience dating is pretty easy if your goal is a long-term relationship, you just need to be yourself. If the other person likes you for who you are and not appear to be it's a very good sign. It is also incredibly easy being yourself, less mental gymnastics. If you are after casual hookups... Here you do need a skill (unless nature gifted you with good looks). I suck incredibly hard at this.
Another thing is that once girls get older (25+?) they start to value other things, so all these hookups you missed in your younger years don't matter that much.
- bergenty 4y agoThe hookups you missed do matter in that you missed out on a lot of the “fun” life provides. It also takes guts to initiate a lot of these conversations and helps a person grow.
- pm90 4y agoIve done this quite a bit and I agree. There is something really amazing about getting intimate with a person you don’t know all that well. Expressing intentions, getting the logistics right, all require a certain level of skill.
- ip26 4y agoIt’s not about hookup skill but confidence knowing what you want, being a 3-dimensional person, communicating, dealbreakers, and so on. Being yourself is a good idea- but who are you? What do you really want? What do you need to work on in yourself?