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The sexuality shame thing is overblown. The Japanese don't really have shame towards sex, but public flirting and PDA is generally taboo. At that point you're c
by BlargMcLarg 4y ago
The sexuality shame thing is overblown. The Japanese don't really have shame towards sex, but public flirting and PDA is generally taboo. At that point you're compartmentalizing places where one can find a date and where one can't find a date, which drastically lowers the odds you'll meet someone.
On top, shyness and saving face run rampant. The former makes it so men don't approach all that often, the latter makes it so they often miss when a woman does the approach but does it in a way she can still save face, often leading to misreading intents.
To put it in perspective, Japanese women tend to approach men more often than in the US, if I have to believe anecdotes. You wouldn't expect that from a culture "shaming" sexuality all-around versus a culture which openly applauds sexuality at every corner.
- Overtonwindow 4y agoThank you, I see. I tried to Google around for this but couldn't find a strong source: How does Japan compare to a country with the highest marriage rate? Wikipedia[1] says in 2014, Palestine had the highest marriage rate per capita, followed by Fiji, Egypt, the Bahamas, etc. I suppose the closest comparison to Japan might be another Asian country? Just curious if it's the taboo on PDA, flirting, and other personal interactions, or is it something more societal. Does Japan need a sexual revolution?
- BlargMcLarg 4y agoJapan absolutely doesn't need a sexual revolution. While the Japanese live under a mantra of not trying to disturb one another (which is the opposite of what you want for dating), a sexual revolution has not fixed the problem for other countries by any stretch of the imagination. Most developed countries follow similar trends. The problem is seeing relationships as too much effort for what's gained. That's only going to be fixed by sweetening the deal of entering a relationship and making it easier to enter a relationship. And unlike what's assumed, sexually liberating people does not guarantee things will become easier.