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Power and compatibility doesn't correlate from visual attractiveness, especially in photos where many otherwise attractive people are simply not photogenic. Yes

Power and compatibility doesn't correlate from visual attractiveness, especially in photos where many otherwise attractive people are simply not photogenic. Yes the market (because that's exactly what it is now, which is what sets it apart from the pre-agriculture era) is fierce, and it's based on faulty preferences - it's almost completely about the photos. Statistically, couples who vet each other based on purely visual characteristics like height, body shape, skin colour and facial structure do not fare well in terms of relationship stability. This is a net negative for both women and men. Women do not find powerful or uniquely attractive men, they find conventionally attractive men and push the market towards homogenisation. That's incredibly damaging from a societal growth perspective; it weeds out innovators and eccentrics. It forces people to change their priorities to become more homogeneous, and at the same time be the best at it. This is keeping up with the Jones' on steroids. The technology we made for convenience is incredibly dangerous and potentially harmful in many aspects to both individuals and communities, and trying to rationalize it as weird but acceptable because of some parallels in history does nothing to address valid issues.

dumpsterdiver 4y ago
> Statistically, couples who vet each other based on purely visual characteristics like height, body shape, skin colour and facial structure do not fare well in terms of relationship stability. You’re talking about people finding each other physically attractive. What world are you living in where physical attraction isn’t the dominant deciding factor for finding a mate?
- prohobo 4y ago
  It's not a good basis for a relationship. In traditional courtship couples woo each other and show attractive characteristics besides the way they look - in fact your behaviour changes the way you look to others. That's why "friend of a friend" relationships have always been so common. It was always a safe and appropriate environment for courtship. Dating apps are creating a powerful disincentive against the possibility of creating relationships through communal meetings by changing the rules of courtship through market dynamics. Physical attractiveness may be pretty important, but romantics find a way to create beauty regardless; like the Quasimodo story. It should make it easier to find mates, not be a prerequisite.

dumpsterdiver 4y ago

> Statistically, couples who vet each other based on purely visual characteristics like height, body shape, skin colour and facial structure do not fare well in terms of relationship stability. You’re talking about people finding each other physically attractive. What world are you living in where physical attraction isn’t the dominant deciding factor for finding a mate?

prohobo 4y ago
It's not a good basis for a relationship. In traditional courtship couples woo each other and show attractive characteristics besides the way they look - in fact your behaviour changes the way you look to others. That's why "friend of a friend" relationships have always been so common. It was always a safe and appropriate environment for courtship. Dating apps are creating a powerful disincentive against the possibility of creating relationships through communal meetings by changing the rules of courtship through market dynamics. Physical attractiveness may be pretty important, but romantics find a way to create beauty regardless; like the Quasimodo story. It should make it easier to find mates, not be a prerequisite.