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If you're in a public space and the most attractive person is surrounded by more desirable prospects and ignoring you, do you join the throng or potentially low

by prawn 4y ago

If you're in a public space and the most attractive person is surrounded by more desirable prospects and ignoring you, do you join the throng or potentially lower your expectations and talk to someone less crowded by competition? I haven't experienced online dating and I'm sure it's grim, but I also know people who've perhaps had unrealistic expectations and stayed largely single into their forties. I've said before, but I think the dating apps are mostly grim for people around 20-25. Anyone after that is more realistic about their prospects and what's worth looking for in a partner.

trashface 4y ago
As a mid-40s guy who used the apps (not sure about my expectations, but I just wasn't interested in marriage, family or dating). I really believe that people do not get more realistic as they get older. Its probably the reverse, most just add more to the requirements for their "soul mate". At the same time the dating pool shrinks dramatically, and the people in it are often, like me, "discounted" so to speak. I do agree the 20+ crowd seems to have the worst of it, but it really doesn't improve all that much. I think the best strategy is to find someone as early in adult life as possible.