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Has Hinge avoided the dark patterns of the Match Group and/or Bumble (not sure if they were subsumed yet) in which men are shown "likes" only as bait to purchas

Has Hinge avoided the dark patterns of the Match Group and/or Bumble (not sure if they were subsumed yet) in which men are shown "likes" only as bait to purchase a premium product and only rarely show up as potential matches? If so, what is their monetization strategy? It is fairly clear that a successful result in a dating app means at least one less user, polygamy and "ENM" notwithstanding. I believe that some apps have used success and subsequent loss of user as marketing to "prove it works" but I haven't seen that tactic lately. How does Hinge work? Aside and FWIW I just starting using Bumble/Tinder after years of refusing, which came after years of a (disastrous) relationship developed via friend-of-a-friend-of-a-relative and I can't fathom how things work anymore since I don't encounter anybody of the gender I'm into in contexts where it's appropriate to initiate contact. I know the tropes and standard advice (hobbies, church, etc) but it ain't working anymore.

cbhl 4y ago
Hinge was acquired by Match Group in June 2018. So, no.
- jimmygrapes 4y ago
  Well alright then. Guess it's back to pretending I give a shit about yoga and feminist books.
  - carabiner 4y ago
    Performative feminism is eternal.
  - dymk 4y ago
    wonder why you’re single
Lewton 4y ago
Hinge does not hide likes like tinder/bumble/etc You get a separate stack where you can see the full profiles of the people who liked or messaged you, the only thing is that you have to react (match, message, or reject)to the top profile in the stack before you can see the next (which you might be able to skip with premium?)
alphabettsy 4y ago
> I don't encounter anybody of the gender I'm into in contexts where it's appropriate to initiate contact. How?
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al_borland 4y ago
I was talking to someone the other day who told me he was dating a woman he met on Match (I believe this was several years ago) and noticed her profile was still active after they had decided to be exclusive. He asked what was going on. She told him Match gave her a really good deal on a year membership, but only if her account remained active. Since it was still early in the relationship, she didn’t want to kill her membership if things didn’t work out. So when women aren’t responding, it’s likely they are in a relationship already and just leaving their account hanging out there to keep their deal. This gives guys the impression they have a lot more options on these sites than they actually do.
postingawayonhn 4y ago
> Has Hinge avoided the dark patterns of the Match Group and/or Bumble The way likes function on Hinge makes it a bit harder to implement those dark patterns. What they have done is pull out the most attractive users and put them in a 'Standouts' section. These users can only be liked by using a 'Rose'. Uses get one Rose every 48 hours (I think) and need to purchase more if they want to like more of the Standouts.
culopatin 4y ago
I can say that me personally found Hinge much more effective in finding someone than all the other apps. Among my friends is the one with highest success rate of long term relationships. I’ve gotten hookups or short lived stuff on Bumble, nothing I’d call luck off of tinder. We’ve all been trying to figure out what makes Hinge different and we think is that you get a lot of information when someone makes a comment on one of your posts (pictures, facts, whatever) that lets you select much faster than a simple empty match with no info.

cbhl 4y ago

Hinge was acquired by Match Group in June 2018. So, no.

jimmygrapes 4y ago
Well alright then. Guess it's back to pretending I give a shit about yoga and feminist books.
- carabiner 4y ago
  Performative feminism is eternal.
- dymk 4y ago
  wonder why you’re single

Lewton 4y ago

Hinge does not hide likes like tinder/bumble/etc You get a separate stack where you can see the full profiles of the people who liked or messaged you, the only thing is that you have to react (match, message, or reject)to the top profile in the stack before you can see the next (which you might be able to skip with premium?)

alphabettsy 4y ago

> I don't encounter anybody of the gender I'm into in contexts where it's appropriate to initiate contact. How?

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al_borland 4y ago

I was talking to someone the other day who told me he was dating a woman he met on Match (I believe this was several years ago) and noticed her profile was still active after they had decided to be exclusive. He asked what was going on. She told him Match gave her a really good deal on a year membership, but only if her account remained active. Since it was still early in the relationship, she didn’t want to kill her membership if things didn’t work out. So when women aren’t responding, it’s likely they are in a relationship already and just leaving their account hanging out there to keep their deal. This gives guys the impression they have a lot more options on these sites than they actually do.

postingawayonhn 4y ago

> Has Hinge avoided the dark patterns of the Match Group and/or Bumble The way likes function on Hinge makes it a bit harder to implement those dark patterns. What they have done is pull out the most attractive users and put them in a 'Standouts' section. These users can only be liked by using a 'Rose'. Uses get one Rose every 48 hours (I think) and need to purchase more if they want to like more of the Standouts.

culopatin 4y ago

I can say that me personally found Hinge much more effective in finding someone than all the other apps. Among my friends is the one with highest success rate of long term relationships. I’ve gotten hookups or short lived stuff on Bumble, nothing I’d call luck off of tinder. We’ve all been trying to figure out what makes Hinge different and we think is that you get a lot of information when someone makes a comment on one of your posts (pictures, facts, whatever) that lets you select much faster than a simple empty match with no info.