not OP but I've always lived pretty much the same way without being wealthy, walk in the park costs nothing and even a nice bottle of wine isn't really expensiv

not OP but I've always lived pretty much the same way without being wealthy, walk in the park costs nothing and even a nice bottle of wine isn't really expensive. The high stress lifestyle is definitely a choice. Fancy car, fancy house, posh neighborhood etc aren't necessary. If you live modestly you have plenty of time and leisure. I spent some time living in a Kibbutz in my 20s and while you have to work it never felt stressful or like a chore or as if you're defined by it. These days as a dev in particular, you can take on a half-day job move to a cheap place in the country with a nice community, you have as much control over your time as you want.