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Abuse is not about physical damage and/or risk to life. If it were, it doesn't take a bodybuilder to kill or hurt someone with an axe or a knife. But that's c

Abuse is not about physical damage and/or risk to life. If it were, it doesn't take a bodybuilder to kill or hurt someone with an axe or a knife. But that's completely besides the point. The point is that in marital abuse - getting hurt (physiologically or psychologically) by someone that was supposed to care for you is always demeaning and hurtful experience. And its a point that few women know, that male psyche is way more fragile than male physis. Some know and take advantage of it. Your statement of men not being hurt by verbal (or other forms of psychological) abuse is frankly, naive. A man puts up with it because, frankly unless he moves away (and that's what every sane person should do in my opinion) there is no way for him to defend himself from his mother/spouse without getting a short end.

Mz 15y ago
If it were, it doesn't take a bodybuilder to kill or hurt someone with an axe or a knife. Yes, women can (and do) pick up equalizers at times to make up for the typical physical differences in prowess between the sexes. This is part of why (last time I checked such statistics), on average, women who defend themselves with lethal force (usually premeditated and with a weapon) against an abusive husband do more jail time than men who finally beat their wives to death ("heat of the moment", with their bare hands) after years of abusing them. I think electromagnetic makes some good points. That doesn't justify a woman slapping a man but a) it does put it in a different light and b) there are many forms of abuse, so just focusing on who got slapped hardly tells the whole picture. I will note that I read somewhere (probably many years ago) that when men were asked what they most feared from a woman, the consensus was "being laughed at". When women were asked what they most feared from men, they listed "being murdered".

Mz 15y ago

If it were, it doesn't take a bodybuilder to kill or hurt someone with an axe or a knife. Yes, women can (and do) pick up equalizers at times to make up for the typical physical differences in prowess between the sexes. This is part of why (last time I checked such statistics), on average, women who defend themselves with lethal force (usually premeditated and with a weapon) against an abusive husband do more jail time than men who finally beat their wives to death ("heat of the moment", with their bare hands) after years of abusing them. I think electromagnetic makes some good points. That doesn't justify a woman slapping a man but a) it does put it in a different light and b) there are many forms of abuse, so just focusing on who got slapped hardly tells the whole picture. I will note that I read somewhere (probably many years ago) that when men were asked what they most feared from a woman, the consensus was "being laughed at". When women were asked what they most feared from men, they listed "being murdered".