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To me you're coming across as defensive when you make these insults and assert that I'm ignorant and don't know what I'm talking about (when, ironically, you ha

To me you're coming across as defensive when you make these insults and assert that I'm ignorant and don't know what I'm talking about (when, ironically, you have no way of knowing and are therefore ignorant to my level of exposure to the topic). I understand being defensive - you've made a significant decision about your child's health and I hope for your, and his, sake that it's the correct one. Your defensiveness aside - it's actually not a "trope" or a kneejerk reaction to notice that the rates of ADHD and ADHD medication have doubled in the past couple decades in the US and are significantly higher in the US than in Western Europe. The US has a pattern of over prescribing medications - the current opiod epidemic is an example. My understanding of this is that it's most likely there is over-diagnosing, and therefore overmedicating, of ADHD, and that's bad. "Are there bad parents who don't want to deal with their kids' behavior" - there are, sure, but that's not what I think is most common. My intuition is that bad parents would just not care what their kids are doing and leave it to the school to handle. If I had to guess, I would guess that the modal problem parent is one who, understandably, wants what is best for their kids and is concerned about what the schools are telling them. The schools, for their part, want kids who don't overly disturb the system. The doctors hear about a problem that they have the pharmaceuticals to treat. I don't think the people involved are evil and acting out of malice or laziness but I do think that this group works together to create a system where a fundamentally boring place (school) has a problem managing people who are fundamentally bad at being bored (boys) and they, in part, solve that problem by giving them drugs (ADHD medication). I've been thinking about my choice of the word "complacent" from earlier, and maybe it's not quite right - I originally meant it in the sense that the natural state of the boys is to think of school as a problem and rebel against it and their medicated state is to not rebel against school as much or to the same extent.

CodeMage 4y ago
If I'm coming across as defensive, then I haven't been clear enough. I'm not defensive, I'm furious but I'm trying to channel it into rational discourse. There's nothing "defensive" about wanting to stop the propagation of this trope. And yes, it's a trope. I said very clearly that this is not about rising rates of ADHD diagnoses and medication. The trope I'm referring to is the tendency to not only jump to a conclusion that it means we have an overdiagnosis crisis, but to present that conclusion as a fact and a significant problem. The reason why I'm furious about it is because this narrative has been pushed for years and it has a negative impact on those of us who wish to help our children. In my personal case, it created a strong urge to avoid addressing the issue and just hope it would go away with "better parenting". If it hadn't been for the stigma of "you just want to drug your kids into submission", I would have started helping my kid earlier -- not with medication, but by finding a psychologist to help us. Again, the focus on "school is boring and kids misbehave, so they get drugged" is too narrow and damaging to those who are affected by ADHD. Imagine being interested in many things, but not being able to advance in any of them beyond initial interest because your brain doesn't let you overcome simple obstacles that require concentration and it only lets you do so if you become somewhat obsessed by a particular random thing it settled on. Yes, the study I (belatedly) linked in my previous post does indicate that there might be some overdiagnosis and overmedication of milder ADHD cases. And yes, that's something that we need to be aware of and work to improve. I'm not objecting to raising that awareness. I'm objecting to the utterly irresponsible and damaging way to do so.
- ALittleLight 4y ago
  Do you think society is currently tilted too far in the direction of undermedicating ADHD? That though we went from 5.5% of children diagnosed with ADHD in 1997 to 9.8% in 2018 we still have more ADHD yet to find? More than a tenth of children are so psychologically flawed they need mind-altering medication to address what's wrong with them? There is a widespread belief in ADHD and that it should be medicated. That's why millions of children are so medicated. There is institutional belief in that idea as well - that's why so many doctors prescribe these drugs to children. It's not the case that treating ADHD is some minority view that needs to be protected from criticism. I read your comment as suggesting that I shouldn't share my opinion on the topic because my opinion stigmatizes children who need help. I hope I can highlight the problem with that sentiment by giving an example like if I said you shouldn't share your opinion because the children who are over medicated need help and you are silencing and stigmatizing ideas that would help the over medicated kids. There is no reason to think my comments are "utterly irresponsible" or "damaging" and you are being hyperbolic by describing them so - any more than your comments are damaging because they encourage over medication. Again, I'd refer you to the "defensive" element of my prior comment. And, since you've mentioned tropes, one trope I'd like to point out is the trope of thinking that "Because I strongly hold belief X I will accuse anyone disagreeing with X of being bad or harmful." You are entitled to your opinions, but not to try and silence people who disagree with you.
  - CodeMage 4y ago
    There is a "widespread belief" in ADHD and that it should be medicated because there is evidence for it. The ADHD my son has and the ADHD my nephew has, among others, are not things I choose to believe in irrationally. As for where the society is currently tilted, it's possible -- and likely -- that ADHD is being both overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed at the same time. Like I said, it was discovered recently enough that we, as a society, don't yet have a perfect solution for it and we're still learning more and more. The approach is still evolving. And yeah, going from 5.5% in 1997 to 9.8% in 2018 is the jump everyone loves to quote and panic about, but it doesn't constitute a crisis. Especially if you frame it as "more than a tenth of children are so psychologically flawed they need mind-altering medication to address what's wrong with them". That's exactly the hyperbole I'm objecting to here. Let's start by acknowledging that 9.8% of children diagnosed does not equate 9.8% of children medicated. Once we hopefully agree on that, I'm also hoping we can agree that ADHD is not this binary thing that manifests exactly the same and in the same degree in every patient. Just like we've discovered that autism is not a binary thing but rather a spectrum (and even more nuanced than that), ADHD can't be reduced to "either you have it and you'll forever medicate, or you don't have it". So yes, we're still dealing with a developing situation and there's more work to be done. That's not something I dispute and I'm not trying to "silence" that opinion. As I already explained repeatedly, I am objecting to the way you presented that. Or rather, I'm objecting to the way you didn't present that at all. You just tossed out a judgmental, dismissive comment and got upset when people pointed out that it wasn't constructive -- or even true, on its own. It didn't come across at all as what you're claiming you wanted to say, but instead of recognizing that you communicated wrongly, you're now claiming I'm trying to silence you. Given that, I'm starting to form an impression that we could go back and forth like this forever and nothing will come out of it.

CodeMage 4y ago

If I'm coming across as defensive, then I haven't been clear enough. I'm not defensive, I'm furious but I'm trying to channel it into rational discourse. There's nothing "defensive" about wanting to stop the propagation of this trope. And yes, it's a trope. I said very clearly that this is not about rising rates of ADHD diagnoses and medication. The trope I'm referring to is the tendency to not only jump to a conclusion that it means we have an overdiagnosis crisis, but to present that conclusion as a fact and a significant problem. The reason why I'm furious about it is because this narrative has been pushed for years and it has a negative impact on those of us who wish to help our children. In my personal case, it created a strong urge to avoid addressing the issue and just hope it would go away with "better parenting". If it hadn't been for the stigma of "you just want to drug your kids into submission", I would have started helping my kid earlier -- not with medication, but by finding a psychologist to help us. Again, the focus on "school is boring and kids misbehave, so they get drugged" is too narrow and damaging to those who are affected by ADHD. Imagine being interested in many things, but not being able to advance in any of them beyond initial interest because your brain doesn't let you overcome simple obstacles that require concentration and it only lets you do so if you become somewhat obsessed by a particular random thing it settled on. Yes, the study I (belatedly) linked in my previous post does indicate that there might be some overdiagnosis and overmedication of milder ADHD cases. And yes, that's something that we need to be aware of and work to improve. I'm not objecting to raising that awareness. I'm objecting to the utterly irresponsible and damaging way to do so.

ALittleLight 4y ago
Do you think society is currently tilted too far in the direction of undermedicating ADHD? That though we went from 5.5% of children diagnosed with ADHD in 1997 to 9.8% in 2018 we still have more ADHD yet to find? More than a tenth of children are so psychologically flawed they need mind-altering medication to address what's wrong with them? There is a widespread belief in ADHD and that it should be medicated. That's why millions of children are so medicated. There is institutional belief in that idea as well - that's why so many doctors prescribe these drugs to children. It's not the case that treating ADHD is some minority view that needs to be protected from criticism. I read your comment as suggesting that I shouldn't share my opinion on the topic because my opinion stigmatizes children who need help. I hope I can highlight the problem with that sentiment by giving an example like if I said you shouldn't share your opinion because the children who are over medicated need help and you are silencing and stigmatizing ideas that would help the over medicated kids. There is no reason to think my comments are "utterly irresponsible" or "damaging" and you are being hyperbolic by describing them so - any more than your comments are damaging because they encourage over medication. Again, I'd refer you to the "defensive" element of my prior comment. And, since you've mentioned tropes, one trope I'd like to point out is the trope of thinking that "Because I strongly hold belief X I will accuse anyone disagreeing with X of being bad or harmful." You are entitled to your opinions, but not to try and silence people who disagree with you.
- CodeMage 4y ago
  There is a "widespread belief" in ADHD and that it should be medicated because there is evidence for it. The ADHD my son has and the ADHD my nephew has, among others, are not things I choose to believe in irrationally. As for where the society is currently tilted, it's possible -- and likely -- that ADHD is being both overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed at the same time. Like I said, it was discovered recently enough that we, as a society, don't yet have a perfect solution for it and we're still learning more and more. The approach is still evolving. And yeah, going from 5.5% in 1997 to 9.8% in 2018 is the jump everyone loves to quote and panic about, but it doesn't constitute a crisis. Especially if you frame it as "more than a tenth of children are so psychologically flawed they need mind-altering medication to address what's wrong with them". That's exactly the hyperbole I'm objecting to here. Let's start by acknowledging that 9.8% of children diagnosed does not equate 9.8% of children medicated. Once we hopefully agree on that, I'm also hoping we can agree that ADHD is not this binary thing that manifests exactly the same and in the same degree in every patient. Just like we've discovered that autism is not a binary thing but rather a spectrum (and even more nuanced than that), ADHD can't be reduced to "either you have it and you'll forever medicate, or you don't have it". So yes, we're still dealing with a developing situation and there's more work to be done. That's not something I dispute and I'm not trying to "silence" that opinion. As I already explained repeatedly, I am objecting to the way you presented that. Or rather, I'm objecting to the way you didn't present that at all. You just tossed out a judgmental, dismissive comment and got upset when people pointed out that it wasn't constructive -- or even true, on its own. It didn't come across at all as what you're claiming you wanted to say, but instead of recognizing that you communicated wrongly, you're now claiming I'm trying to silence you. Given that, I'm starting to form an impression that we could go back and forth like this forever and nothing will come out of it.