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Generally yes, I agree with you. In this case though OP was doing nothing and in no way appeared to be motivated to investigate. A dr. is going to be better tha

Generally yes, I agree with you. In this case though OP was doing nothing and in no way appeared to be motivated to investigate. A dr. is going to be better than nothing. With that said I specifically went to male hormone / TRT doctor because that is what I wanted after my own research.

no_wizard 4y ago
if by OP you mean me, thats not true, I am motivated. I was being succient in my point and hoping to understand what others felt / do in my situation, if they have any similar experience. I'm extremely motivated to get to the bottom of this. I've been roadblocked by therapy in some ways, because they just say your sex drive is yours, her sex drive is hers, and it shouldn't define your relationship on one hand to another therapist telling me that women should drive sex in a relationship not men to yet another telling me that I don't exhibit a normal pattern of sexual desire but gave little recommendation in the way of action on what to do about it. Doctors are even worse, they either don't see an issue, or just want to throw ED pills at me. Its alot more complicated than you might think. I just didn't want to put all of this into one post like that, so it didn't augment peoples opinions. I'm somewhat regretting this now, as I wonder if any potential employer might track down my identity now and see these posts and think lesser, but I'm willing to put myself out like this so I can hear from others, and I think thats worth the potential exposure
- wonderwonder 4y ago
  I misunderstood then and apologize. With that said I highly recommend going to a TRT doctor and getting your total and free levels checked. Your issue could be as simple as just having low T and that is a very easy fix. I very much doubt an employer is going to go through the trouble of tracking your anonymous HN accounts down. You are likely safe :) Note: personal unpopular opinion unrelated to anything in particular that will get me down voted, unless recovering from some incredible trauma (death of a child, sexual abuse, etc.) I have never understood the need for a psychologist / psychiatrist. Best advice I have ever gotten is just to get on with it. No need to talk things through with some person that has never been through what you have and is just making it up as they go along. Trudge On.
- ddingus 4y ago
  >somewhat regretting this now, as I sure hope not. Frankly I'm struggling with some of this stuff, and found your comnent refreshing, in that I see someone having Frank open conversation about things that matter. I put a lot of effort in my life into getting rid of personal judgment of this kind. This conversation is why. We should be able to talk openly and frankly about these things. About a lot of things. We're better humans when we do. That's it, just throwing a little support your way.

no_wizard 4y ago

if by OP you mean me, thats not true, I am motivated. I was being succient in my point and hoping to understand what others felt / do in my situation, if they have any similar experience. I'm extremely motivated to get to the bottom of this. I've been roadblocked by therapy in some ways, because they just say your sex drive is yours, her sex drive is hers, and it shouldn't define your relationship on one hand to another therapist telling me that women should drive sex in a relationship not men to yet another telling me that I don't exhibit a normal pattern of sexual desire but gave little recommendation in the way of action on what to do about it. Doctors are even worse, they either don't see an issue, or just want to throw ED pills at me. Its alot more complicated than you might think. I just didn't want to put all of this into one post like that, so it didn't augment peoples opinions. I'm somewhat regretting this now, as I wonder if any potential employer might track down my identity now and see these posts and think lesser, but I'm willing to put myself out like this so I can hear from others, and I think thats worth the potential exposure

wonderwonder 4y ago
I misunderstood then and apologize. With that said I highly recommend going to a TRT doctor and getting your total and free levels checked. Your issue could be as simple as just having low T and that is a very easy fix. I very much doubt an employer is going to go through the trouble of tracking your anonymous HN accounts down. You are likely safe :) Note: personal unpopular opinion unrelated to anything in particular that will get me down voted, unless recovering from some incredible trauma (death of a child, sexual abuse, etc.) I have never understood the need for a psychologist / psychiatrist. Best advice I have ever gotten is just to get on with it. No need to talk things through with some person that has never been through what you have and is just making it up as they go along. Trudge On.
ddingus 4y ago
>somewhat regretting this now, as I sure hope not. Frankly I'm struggling with some of this stuff, and found your comnent refreshing, in that I see someone having Frank open conversation about things that matter. I put a lot of effort in my life into getting rid of personal judgment of this kind. This conversation is why. We should be able to talk openly and frankly about these things. About a lot of things. We're better humans when we do. That's it, just throwing a little support your way.