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> But I don’t love it as a strategy for dealing psychologically with rejection: it amounts to numbing ourselves, and I suspect that numbness can weaken the boo
by mettamage 4y ago
> But I don’t love it as a strategy for dealing psychologically with rejection: it amounts to numbing ourselves, and I suspect that numbness can weaken the boost to ambition when we finally get a “yes.”
I've done this. I did indeed become numb and on the short to medium-term it also meant that I lost respect for the industry. I'm not sure what the long-term effects are. One of the things I now do is to apply every week to a company, I've been rejected so much that it became a habit. I'm numb, I go through the motions, let's keep on chugging. I'll never stop anymore. I can't, I need to stay sharp, as sharp as possible. I've been rejected so much that I need to create opportunities before I actually need them, because when I need them then they most likely won't be there. Keep that deal flow going.
I wish there was a better way, I'd love to open myself more emotionally, but I can't take it when you open yourself up every time and you just get: ignored, ghosted or rejected. And I mostly seem to get ignored or ghosted.
- sinenomine 4y agoIf I were at your place I would start making A/B tests with small and large variations of your CV, to see what is it exactly that makes a stereotypical HR pattern-match your application into a recycle bin.
- tpoacher 4y agoI love this as an idea conceptually, especially as a revenge to most employers rejecting without feedback ... but in practice I imagine you'd burn a lot of bridges if you sent out fraudulent CV's, only to reply "sorry that was just A/B testing on my part" when invited to an interview ... (maybe not though ... who knows! has anyone ever done this?)
- sinenomine 4y agoCome on, there is a lot of companies out there, you don't have to use your name, and in this case the utter homogenity of HR plays to your side.