One: That's really not how monogamy is defined. If you'd like to re-define extremely common terms, it might be a nice idea to lead with that. Two: You can cert

One: That's really not how monogamy is defined. If you'd like to re-define extremely common terms, it might be a nice idea to lead with that. Two: You can certainly mutually agree to expectations without being insecure. Hey, lots of couples are monogamous because STDs are a thing, and they FULLY expect their partner to stick to that definition. Not insecurity, collective risk management. Three: Not forgiving somebody who betrayed your trust isn't jealousy. Wanting to control their behavior in the first place is. Four: If she wanted to say "jealousy is rooted in insecurity", she could've just said that and saved the world a lot of screen space. It's not about "target", it's about the mindset that somehow poly is magically better. (And boy, there are extremely jealous poly people out there. Wanting to control is a desire that's independent of relationship status)