Fascinating. I'm not sure I agree on all or many points here... I wonder if the author is illustrating the extent of their own insecurities. For example, one m

Fascinating. I'm not sure I agree on all or many points here... I wonder if the author is illustrating the extent of their own insecurities. For example, one might have all the confidence in the world, but prefer to pursue a monogamous relationship for practical reasons. I might be fairly content with or without a monogamous relationship, but I know that certain experiences would be exceedingly unlikely without one, and they're things I want to experience. For example, raising kids in a healthy environment. In a monogamous relationship I can provide a stable and functional environment for my kids to grow up in. I don't care all that much about who my partner has sex with, but I do care that our relationship meets their needs such that they don't feel compelled to have sex with other people, so we can raise our kids under conditions that keep everyone happy. It's not really about who they have sex with so much as creating a life where that isn't really a concern in the first place. If I was concerned or insecure about sex, well, I wouldn't have had kids I think. They aren't conducive to having more sex at all, nor necessarily all that great for ensuring someone is monogamous. Divorce rates are evidence enough to illustrate that. So am I insecure about something here? Not passing on my genes? Not having stability? I suppose you could frame it that way, but at some point you need to choose one thing over another, and it wouldn't be useful or informative to call that insecurity. I feel secure in my choice, for what it's worth.