I think excess time to overthink stuff is producing such thoughts. At the end of the day the only fundamental truth is that nobody wants to be present when 2 p

I think excess time to overthink stuff is producing such thoughts. At the end of the day the only fundamental truth is that nobody wants to be present when 2 people are getting romantic/sexual. Also nobody wants to picture somebody they are having sex with somebody else before. The above is something which is true for basically everybody except for rare fetishes. Once you recognize the fundamental truth above it becomes perfectly clear that what people call polyamory is essentially 2 people having a pseudo-romantic relationship in which they don't live together and don't see each other every day. And when they are not seeing each other they are having pseudo-romantic relationship with other people and everybody in this chain of pseudo-romantic relationships thinks of themselves as being the only one who is enjoying exclusivity but doesn't bother investigating if that's really the case. Of course they don't confess sleeping around either. Such things have existed forever. It used to be called the "talking stage" when everything is still fair game but somehow you assume the other person is not taking advantage of the fair game clause which exists during the "talking stage". Some social norms exist in other countries where it goes beyond the talking stage. Eg. France. But if you ask around they don't define themselves as poly.