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The author explains the monogamy choice by jealousy and insecurity. But a different explanation is being territorial [1]: «Jealousy is a negative trait, territ
by yamrzou 4y ago
The author explains the monogamy choice by jealousy and insecurity. But a different explanation is being territorial [1]:
«Jealousy is a negative trait, territoriality is a positive trait. Jealousy stems from fear and insecurity. The focus of jealousy is actually yourself. Territoriality is an instinctive act to provide and protect the one(s) you love. Jealousy focuses on you, territoriality focuses on your partner. You are being territorial because you care for their well being. Jealousy breeds resentment, anxiety and distrust, territoriality breeds a sense of safety, security and trust.»
[1] https://www.relationshiptalk.net/are-you-a-jealous-or-territorial-person-6826.html https://www.relationshiptalk.net/are-you-a-jealous-or-territ...
- titanomachy 4y agoThe two concepts cover different behaviors. If your partner is getting attention from random strangers, and you think "my partner doesn't want this attention, I'll put my arm around them to make it clear that they're with someone": you're being territorial. If your partner says "I like and trust this person and I'd like to sleep with them" and you say "absolutely not", I'd call that jealousy.
- groby_b 4y agoBut "being territorial" isn't protecting. It's considering your partner your property. That entire definition somehow presumes your partner is incapable to take care of their own wellbeing. It's still being an ass, just in different ways.