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> They have made the decision that going to the effort of getting rid of jealousy – of dealing with the pain of their partner spending the night somewhere else
by dQw4w9WgXcQ 4y ago
> They have made the decision that going to the effort of getting rid of jealousy – of dealing with the pain of their partner spending the night somewhere else – is not worth the benefits they might gain from nonmonogamy.
This is about the equivalent of saying that people who decide to eat 3 meals a day are insecure about dealing with the negative emotions of being on a continual starvation diet.
Maybe the author should just try owning their position like "yea I want to sleep around and feel good about myself" instead of having to tear others down.
- ZhangSWEFAANG 4y agoThis is why I love hackernews. I hated the article, but I couldn't phrase why. Comments like this articulate what I'm thinking.
- throwamon 4y agoMaybe a more apt analogy would be saying people with a sedentary lifestyle are insecure about having to go hunt and fight sabertooths whenever they're hungry and their chickens have been eaten by a fox.
- titanomachy 4y agoIf you're 200 lbs overweight, then maybe you should be on a starvation diet all the time and the only reason you're not is fear of discomfort. If you're a healthy weight, then eating all the calories needed to give you good energy levels seems pretty optimal.