> I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. I haven't, apologies for being naive. > People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so

> I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. I haven't, apologies for being naive. > People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so planning in the way you suggest seems obtuse. Having witnessed firsthand how absolutely traumatic my parent's divorce was, I'm currently approaching the idea of long-term relationships, possibly with children, as one where "hope for the best, expect the worse" is the optimal policy. Obviously, if I marry someone, I'd like to stay with them my whole life. Nevertheless, I think it important to ensure that if things do go south, which, statistically speaking, they do quite a lot, collateral damage is limited. By which I mean, there is nothing for the lawyers to fight over.