Thanks for your kind words. Things have gotten slightly better but only because of my personality of persistence. I’ve met with many fathers who didn’t have the

Thanks for your kind words. Things have gotten slightly better but only because of my personality of persistence. I’ve met with many fathers who didn’t have the same capacity for persistence as me and their situation is much worse. I agree, it feels kinda gross to say it’s the rational thing to do but in my experience incentives always win and it seems like it’s difficult for some mothers to see their childrens father on the same level as them as a parent. It’s toxic but I think it’s much more common than people realize. And this is even when the parents are still together, once a separation is initiated, I think it’s natural for this feeling to grow. I can see my childrens mom rationalize what she did very easily. She had to keep her babies safe etc… when your in the process of breaking up a family long term thinking is much harder, survival is the goal and I think for many moms the thought of losing access to their children part of the time is unbearable. Of course that thought (and reality) is unbearable for me too but I don’t have the family court on my side because I’m a man, if I did, I’d probably make the decision to keep their their mom in their life but it would be a very difficult decision to say goodbye to my children half the time. It’s emotional torture which makes rationalizations very very enticing. So yeah, I think long term you’re right, but in practice it’s really hard to be purely rational in the moment.