There is no way to do what you state, though. Things change in ways folks cannot predict. For example: My grandmother married a nice, kind man. A year later, h

There is no way to do what you state, though. Things change in ways folks cannot predict. For example: My grandmother married a nice, kind man. A year later, he had a stroke. He increasingly became more and more abusive, compounded by the fact that he was home all the time and needed care. My grandmother finally kicked him out when he expanded the abuse to my aunt, 3 years younger than I and a teenager at the time. She was accused of abandonment. And seriously, this isn't something they could have predicted and really is a good reason for the laws. There is no reverting back to a more optimistic time at these points. Even if they had a prenup, the only fair thing to do is to look over it and make sure it is still fair to the couple and their children, if any.