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The pre-nup getting outdated is a valid point. What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? I suppose that could cause problems o

The pre-nup getting outdated is a valid point. What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? I suppose that could cause problems of its own, but it would 'fix' the outdate pre-nup problem (which would in turn fix the general divorce law trying to address very specific cases problem).

mensetmanusman 4y ago
Mandatory annual government paperwork would be an additional incentive to not get married.
TedDoesntTalk 4y ago
> What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so planning in the way you suggest seems obtuse. I can’t ever imagine my wife, who does not have a career and depends on my income, annually renegotiating a prenuptial agreement.
- achenet 4y ago
  > I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. I haven't, apologies for being naive. > People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so planning in the way you suggest seems obtuse. Having witnessed firsthand how absolutely traumatic my parent's divorce was, I'm currently approaching the idea of long-term relationships, possibly with children, as one where "hope for the best, expect the worse" is the optimal policy. Obviously, if I marry someone, I'd like to stay with them my whole life. Nevertheless, I think it important to ensure that if things do go south, which, statistically speaking, they do quite a lot, collateral damage is limited. By which I mean, there is nothing for the lawyers to fight over.
  - em-bee 4y ago
    i'd rephrase that: hope for/expect the best, prepare for the worst.
dragonwriter 4y ago
> What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? So, you want to fix a problem by requiring that people rewrite the law of marriage from scratch in order to get married and then also force them to redo the exercise annually to remain married? Wouldn't people just opt out of official “marriage” for a regular contractual agreement to avoid the legal maintenance burden?

mensetmanusman 4y ago

Mandatory annual government paperwork would be an additional incentive to not get married.

TedDoesntTalk 4y ago

> What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so planning in the way you suggest seems obtuse. I can’t ever imagine my wife, who does not have a career and depends on my income, annually renegotiating a prenuptial agreement.

achenet 4y ago
> I’m wondering if you’ve ever been married. I haven't, apologies for being naive. > People generally don’t live their marriage with the intent of divorce, so planning in the way you suggest seems obtuse. Having witnessed firsthand how absolutely traumatic my parent's divorce was, I'm currently approaching the idea of long-term relationships, possibly with children, as one where "hope for the best, expect the worse" is the optimal policy. Obviously, if I marry someone, I'd like to stay with them my whole life. Nevertheless, I think it important to ensure that if things do go south, which, statistically speaking, they do quite a lot, collateral damage is limited. By which I mean, there is nothing for the lawyers to fight over.
- em-bee 4y ago
  i'd rephrase that: hope for/expect the best, prepare for the worst.

dragonwriter 4y ago

> What if we made it mandatory to renegotiate the pre-nup every year or so? So, you want to fix a problem by requiring that people rewrite the law of marriage from scratch in order to get married and then also force them to redo the exercise annually to remain married? Wouldn't people just opt out of official “marriage” for a regular contractual agreement to avoid the legal maintenance burden?