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I find it ok to see and visit coworkers now and then, but work is not meant to replace one's social life. Further, some years back, I attended a couple differe

I find it ok to see and visit coworkers now and then, but work is not meant to replace one's social life. Further, some years back, I attended a couple different "Work at a Startup" and related events. Companies pushing "we are a family", "we hang out after work" typically means they have an unreasonable expectation of how much time they expect you to be around - despite productivity. Do I have colleagues (current or former) that are friends? Yes. Do/did I feel a need to be in the office to spend time with them - no. Work is a contract between myself and my employer to produce based on a certain set of expectations. Those expectations shall not include (nor exclude) social interactions outside those times.

xyzzyz 4y ago
> I find it ok to see and visit coworkers now and then, but work is not meant to replace one's social life. Work has been a critical component of social life for many generations now. It is extremely strange to offhandedly dismiss its role like that. > Do I have colleagues (current or former) that are friends? Yes. Do/did I feel a need to be in the office to spend time with them - no. I started my previous job in mid 2019. I made multiple friends at the office in 8 months before the lockdowns started that I still keep in touch with. After we went full remote, I worked there for an extra year. During that time, my team have doubled in size. Not only I did not make friends with any of the new colleagues, I don’t even remember their names now. I finally quit in 2021, because I absolutely loathed full time WFH. I am now commuting to the office every day, with rather arduous 50-60 minutes one way commute, and I am extremely happy, making friends again and feeling very motivated.
- Apocryphon 4y ago
  > It is extremely strange to offhandedly dismiss its role like that. Chalk it up as an overreaction to how many startups and large tech companies with imposing corporate cultures alike have tried to foster workplaces designed to keep workers away from home for as long as they could with free dinners and foosball tables.

xyzzyz 4y ago

> I find it ok to see and visit coworkers now and then, but work is not meant to replace one's social life. Work has been a critical component of social life for many generations now. It is extremely strange to offhandedly dismiss its role like that. > Do I have colleagues (current or former) that are friends? Yes. Do/did I feel a need to be in the office to spend time with them - no. I started my previous job in mid 2019. I made multiple friends at the office in 8 months before the lockdowns started that I still keep in touch with. After we went full remote, I worked there for an extra year. During that time, my team have doubled in size. Not only I did not make friends with any of the new colleagues, I don’t even remember their names now. I finally quit in 2021, because I absolutely loathed full time WFH. I am now commuting to the office every day, with rather arduous 50-60 minutes one way commute, and I am extremely happy, making friends again and feeling very motivated.

Apocryphon 4y ago
> It is extremely strange to offhandedly dismiss its role like that. Chalk it up as an overreaction to how many startups and large tech companies with imposing corporate cultures alike have tried to foster workplaces designed to keep workers away from home for as long as they could with free dinners and foosball tables.