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Everyone's saying to ask for money … which is fine, but also don't forget to be human and make/keep friends. If someone's asking for a little bit of help and yo
by feifan 4y ago
Everyone's saying to ask for money … which is fine, but also don't forget to be human and make/keep friends. If someone's asking for a little bit of help and you're feeling up for it, by all means help them (and don't feel like you have to bill for the help to avoid being used). If you're not feeling up for it, you can decline ("sorry, I'm busy/I can't fit this into my head right now"). If it's a bigger ask (e.g. traveling to them for a longer engagement), then yes absolutely agree on compensation ahead of time.
- flying_colours 4y agoNahhh I'm super down to help. General help is fine. I block out Fridays for general help - copying Adam Grant's friday blocking method for givers. But I get sad when they expect me to help them more and more and more and more. Projects can take days and weeks and months.
- feifan 4y agoIMO it's perfectly fine to start helping on a bounded part of a bigger project, but then decline to help on further asks/scope-creep.