Personally, I would move to San Diego over Sacramento or a small village in Germany. San Diego has wonderful weather, plenty of outdoor activities, it is very s

Personally, I would move to San Diego over Sacramento or a small village in Germany. San Diego has wonderful weather, plenty of outdoor activities, it is very safe, and generally one of the best cities to raise a family in the United States. Family is nice, but if your father can watch the kids one night a month, that would be plenty. If you get bored living in a small village, you may end up resenting your wife's parents. I wouldn't focus too much on career growth. If you already traveled and lived in Amsterdam and still made it work, you're probably going to succeed in either place.