Do you want your kids to be German or do you want your kids to be American? Do you want your kids to have the experience of a close, extended family? Or do you

Do you want your kids to be German or do you want your kids to be American? Do you want your kids to have the experience of a close, extended family? Or do you want them to see family as people who are distant and aloof and doing their own thing? Do you want your kids to have autonomy - to be able to play outside with their friends unsupervised? Ride their bikes to wherever they need to go? These are the questions you need to be thinking about. Notice I never once mentioned money. You're a software engineer, you'll always have money. Oh sure, it'd be nice to have more money, but at what cost? And "career" is just a two syllable word for "job." I think you know what you need to do.