I was in the same situation years ago, and went with Germany (berlin) over SF. I have kids as well, and my priority was to have time to actually be with them. I

I was in the same situation years ago, and went with Germany (berlin) over SF. I have kids as well, and my priority was to have time to actually be with them. I can always invest more in my worklife when they are teenagers and want to avoid me like the plague. I see a couple of people suggest working for a US company from Germany, I would advice against that. Work is a big social driver, so being disconnected from that, will make your time in Germany harder.