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> I just got turned down for another job and I am at the end of my mental and emotional rope. Try not to let being turned down for a job (or many jobs) affect
by DwnVoteHoneyPot 4y ago
> I just got turned down for another job and I am at the end of my mental and emotional rope.
Try not to let being turned down for a job (or many jobs) affect you. It's a numbers game where you apply to 100 and 1 accepts you. Like dating - why get all hung up on one girl when you should be interested in 10 others at same time. It's all failures until you get 1 match.
- dirtybirdnj 4y agoI don't have time for a numbers game I need to pay my mortgage or I am faced with selling the house and leaving the state I live in. I am not ok with this and it's a giant axe hanging over my neck every breath I take. This does not make me want to work harder and try again, I want to crawl under a rock and die and never come out. I am demoralized and emotionally empty from the negativity and rejection its called learned helplessness. The rat is tired of being shocked and has given up. Usually at this point they discard the dead rat and try again, I'm not sure how that applies to me. I'm sorry but the whole "try not to get down" thing is extremely triggering and upsetting. I know you mean well but it feels like toxic positivity.
- DwnVoteHoneyPot 4y agoSorry my comment is upsetting. I actually wasn't trying to be positive. I was trying to reflect that I don't consider getting turn down by a job or a date as negative (nor positive with a silver-lining). I'm cold-blooded about the whole thing because the process is nearly all rejections. I tend to work at smaller companies (almost startup size) so I've been laid off many times when the company fails, so I've had financial and family stress too. Nothing to do but to keep going despite how tough it is.