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I might be too Gen X for this but I'm a firm believer in just cultivating a messaging etiquette with the people I know and not outsourcing it to a status messag

I might be too Gen X for this but I'm a firm believer in just cultivating a messaging etiquette with the people I know and not outsourcing it to a status message. My boomer family knows they can always contact me via text and chat and my millenial/zoomer family knows I'm often away from my phone hours at a time. It seems pretty manageable, honestly.

helij 4y ago
Same here. I have all notifications turned off on my phone. Friends know that I only check Whatsup twice a week. Text or call and I'll usually see it within two hours. I don't really understand people who complain about these things. I guess we are wired differently. Whenever I check Whatsup I realise I didn't miss anything at all. At work we have Slack and I made it clear that I might not be able to answer for hours. Use email and I'll decide if it's important and if so will answer within an hour or leave it for another day. I also insist that everything client/work related is in an email. If it's on Slack only then it doesn't exist.
alar44 4y ago
Yeah this is a boundary issue, not a "there is too much connection" in the world problem. I don't use any DND or away messaging. I answer when I choose to answer. I don't really get the issue.
- sumtechguy 4y ago
  100% this. Most people are cool with the rules I set down for messaging me. Basically "i will get back to you but not necessarily right away". However, some people seem to expect that you usually have your phone on you and they sent you a message you better respond ASAP no mater what. They can not comprehend that I have effectively turned my notification tones off (light buzz). I get too many messages to have that be useful anymore and I am not constantly fiddling with my phone...
astrange 4y ago
This makes it sound like you intentionally ignore the younger people in your family.
- al_borland 4y ago
  Not OP, but… It may just be a matter of volume. The older people in my life tend to text sparingly. For example, a quick text to see if I’ll be available for a call later or to know what time I’ll be showing up at their house. The younger ones text constantly with a lot of trivial items (news articles, memes, etc). Personally, I like email for non-time-sensitive communication. If someone sends me a text with a news article or long video, I don’t want to drop everything to read/watch and respond. So there are times I actively ignore it as a way to try and change that expectation. My personal thoughts on communication are: - Phone Call == Extreme emergency or something extremely personal. Or preceded by a text to talk out something too complex or confusing to do via text. - Text == Something quick and straight forward and needs a fairly quick response. - Email == More complex information or non-time-sensitive. May take a day or two to respond.
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helij 4y ago

Same here. I have all notifications turned off on my phone. Friends know that I only check Whatsup twice a week. Text or call and I'll usually see it within two hours. I don't really understand people who complain about these things. I guess we are wired differently. Whenever I check Whatsup I realise I didn't miss anything at all. At work we have Slack and I made it clear that I might not be able to answer for hours. Use email and I'll decide if it's important and if so will answer within an hour or leave it for another day. I also insist that everything client/work related is in an email. If it's on Slack only then it doesn't exist.

alar44 4y ago

Yeah this is a boundary issue, not a "there is too much connection" in the world problem. I don't use any DND or away messaging. I answer when I choose to answer. I don't really get the issue.

sumtechguy 4y ago
100% this. Most people are cool with the rules I set down for messaging me. Basically "i will get back to you but not necessarily right away". However, some people seem to expect that you usually have your phone on you and they sent you a message you better respond ASAP no mater what. They can not comprehend that I have effectively turned my notification tones off (light buzz). I get too many messages to have that be useful anymore and I am not constantly fiddling with my phone...

astrange 4y ago

This makes it sound like you intentionally ignore the younger people in your family.

al_borland 4y ago
Not OP, but… It may just be a matter of volume. The older people in my life tend to text sparingly. For example, a quick text to see if I’ll be available for a call later or to know what time I’ll be showing up at their house. The younger ones text constantly with a lot of trivial items (news articles, memes, etc). Personally, I like email for non-time-sensitive communication. If someone sends me a text with a news article or long video, I don’t want to drop everything to read/watch and respond. So there are times I actively ignore it as a way to try and change that expectation. My personal thoughts on communication are: - Phone Call == Extreme emergency or something extremely personal. Or preceded by a text to talk out something too complex or confusing to do via text. - Text == Something quick and straight forward and needs a fairly quick response. - Email == More complex information or non-time-sensitive. May take a day or two to respond.

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