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I cannot recommend enough cultivating a reputation for being grumpy but fair. Try and make approaching you like a game of Dark Souls; rewarding if the player is

I cannot recommend enough cultivating a reputation for being grumpy but fair. Try and make approaching you like a game of Dark Souls; rewarding if the player is prepared. People will respect your time and accept death as the penalty for failure.

stingta 4y ago
Yep, I am contactable via irc (w/ flakey bitlbee) or xmpp, if you message me, I'll reply but I'm very much not always online. Call if its an emergency, and its probably not really am emergency for me if you don't have my number
Zircom 4y ago
My general rule about communicating that I tell people about is that if you want/need a response call me, otherwise I have no guarantee I'll remember to reply or text you back.
NateEag 4y ago
This reminds me of Hamming's "You And Your Research" speech, specifically what he said about open vs closed doors: "If you work with the door closed, you won't be interrupted - you get your work done. You work with your door open, people come by and stop and chat and so on, so on but I've noticed very clearly at Bell Laboratories those who work with door shut may be working just as hard ten years later but they don't know what to work on. They are not connected with reality. Those who have the door open may very well know what's important. I cannot prove to you whether the open door causes the open mind or whether the open mind causes the open door. I can only establish the correlation and it was quite spectacular. Almost always the guys with the door closed were often very well able, very gifted but they seemed to work always on slightly the wrong problem."
- AndrewOMartin 4y ago
  It sounds like what we need is some kind of door which can efficiently and reversibly toggle its openness depending on circumstance.
  - cupofpython 4y ago
    An open door policy with a bouncer for anything frivolous
    - dredmorbius 4y ago
      "Office hours." For those discussing DND elsewhere in this thread, the notion of being generally reachable at specific times exists.
- dredmorbius 4y ago
  If only someone could invent a door that could change its open/closed state.
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jesterson 4y ago
This is particularly important wile working with working with engaging (please read as distracting) apps like Slack. I am using same rule and my slack is very quiet while colleagues are constantly complaining of distracting messages.
- notjustanymike 4y ago
  People no longer message me with "Hey", or "Do you have a minute?". They send a full statement that I can act on. The "Hey" is left unacknowledged.
  - jesterson 4y ago
    Right. They also don't chitchat anymore knowing that unimportant inquiry will be left unresponded for a while, giving them anxiety

stingta 4y ago

Yep, I am contactable via irc (w/ flakey bitlbee) or xmpp, if you message me, I'll reply but I'm very much not always online. Call if its an emergency, and its probably not really am emergency for me if you don't have my number

Zircom 4y ago

My general rule about communicating that I tell people about is that if you want/need a response call me, otherwise I have no guarantee I'll remember to reply or text you back.

NateEag 4y ago

This reminds me of Hamming's "You And Your Research" speech, specifically what he said about open vs closed doors: "If you work with the door closed, you won't be interrupted - you get your work done. You work with your door open, people come by and stop and chat and so on, so on but I've noticed very clearly at Bell Laboratories those who work with door shut may be working just as hard ten years later but they don't know what to work on. They are not connected with reality. Those who have the door open may very well know what's important. I cannot prove to you whether the open door causes the open mind or whether the open mind causes the open door. I can only establish the correlation and it was quite spectacular. Almost always the guys with the door closed were often very well able, very gifted but they seemed to work always on slightly the wrong problem."

AndrewOMartin 4y ago
It sounds like what we need is some kind of door which can efficiently and reversibly toggle its openness depending on circumstance.
- cupofpython 4y ago
  An open door policy with a bouncer for anything frivolous
  - dredmorbius 4y ago
    "Office hours." For those discussing DND elsewhere in this thread, the notion of being generally reachable at specific times exists.
dredmorbius 4y ago
If only someone could invent a door that could change its open/closed state.

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jesterson 4y ago

This is particularly important wile working with working with engaging (please read as distracting) apps like Slack. I am using same rule and my slack is very quiet while colleagues are constantly complaining of distracting messages.

notjustanymike 4y ago
People no longer message me with "Hey", or "Do you have a minute?". They send a full statement that I can act on. The "Hey" is left unacknowledged.
- jesterson 4y ago
  Right. They also don't chitchat anymore knowing that unimportant inquiry will be left unresponded for a while, giving them anxiety