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Is it fair to call dating preferences “race discrimination”? And without looking at any real stats, I’d guess that the US has more interracial dating/marriage t

Is it fair to call dating preferences “race discrimination”? And without looking at any real stats, I’d guess that the US has more interracial dating/marriage than most countries.

quantified 4y ago
Or, for that matter, "sex discrimination"? What discrimination is illegal and what is legal? Some will be illegal even if immoral.
belltaco 4y ago
Note that I didn't call it racism. But it definitely fits the definition of discrimination by race. What else would you call this and the stark change from the South and rural places, to the coasts and cities? And higher rates of interracial marriages isn't saying much when the baseline for comparison is low. >When I relocated from my predominantly Black suburb in Dallas, Texas to an immensely diverse neighborhood in Brooklyn, I didn’t expect to receive so many matches on Tinder and Hinge from non-Black men. I had always found myself in mostly white spaces — college, jobs, vacations — yet white men never took a deep interest in me before I moved to the East Coast. And while I had spent two years dating a German guy who was studying abroad at my university, it was only by transplant that a non-Black person really showed interest in courting me beyond a “you’re pretty for a Black girl” comment. >Eventually, I stopped swiping on non-Black men altogether. There had been several cases before when a white man would match with me and then DM me something obscure like my skin tone reminding him of chocolate or feeling the need to tell me he’s always wanted to fuck a Black girl. I found it ludicrous that these men actually thought that was the way to a Black woman’s heart — or panties — and would unmatch them instantly. But in New York City, the progressive melting pot of America, white men (and Asian and Latino men for that matter) wanted to take me out for dinner and drinks, probed my interests, and complimented my photos in a respectable manner. https://mashable.com/article/racism-online-dating https://mashable.com/article/racism-online-dating
kelnos 4y ago
If you refuse to consider someone for something (anything!) based on their race, then, by definition, that is race-based discrimination. I think many people are a lot more tolerant of discrimination in dating, though, even if it's (IMO) unfortunate. People who don't date outside their race are really closing their minds and their worlds to a lot of potentially great possibilities. I get that many people do it because of parental approval/disapproval, and I can absolutely understand the desire not to piss off parents in that way, but it's still a shame.

Is it fair to call dating preferences “race discrimination”? And without looking at any real stats, I’d guess that the US has more interracial dating/marriage than most countries.

quantified 4y ago

Or, for that matter, "sex discrimination"? What discrimination is illegal and what is legal? Some will be illegal even if immoral.

belltaco 4y ago

Note that I didn't call it racism. But it definitely fits the definition of discrimination by race. What else would you call this and the stark change from the South and rural places, to the coasts and cities? And higher rates of interracial marriages isn't saying much when the baseline for comparison is low. >When I relocated from my predominantly Black suburb in Dallas, Texas to an immensely diverse neighborhood in Brooklyn, I didn’t expect to receive so many matches on Tinder and Hinge from non-Black men. I had always found myself in mostly white spaces — college, jobs, vacations — yet white men never took a deep interest in me before I moved to the East Coast. And while I had spent two years dating a German guy who was studying abroad at my university, it was only by transplant that a non-Black person really showed interest in courting me beyond a “you’re pretty for a Black girl” comment. >Eventually, I stopped swiping on non-Black men altogether. There had been several cases before when a white man would match with me and then DM me something obscure like my skin tone reminding him of chocolate or feeling the need to tell me he’s always wanted to fuck a Black girl. I found it ludicrous that these men actually thought that was the way to a Black woman’s heart — or panties — and would unmatch them instantly. But in New York City, the progressive melting pot of America, white men (and Asian and Latino men for that matter) wanted to take me out for dinner and drinks, probed my interests, and complimented my photos in a respectable manner. https://mashable.com/article/racism-online-dating https://mashable.com/article/racism-online-dating

kelnos 4y ago

If you refuse to consider someone for something (anything!) based on their race, then, by definition, that is race-based discrimination. I think many people are a lot more tolerant of discrimination in dating, though, even if it's (IMO) unfortunate. People who don't date outside their race are really closing their minds and their worlds to a lot of potentially great possibilities. I get that many people do it because of parental approval/disapproval, and I can absolutely understand the desire not to piss off parents in that way, but it's still a shame.