I don't follow this, either logically or in practice. Granted I've never dated as a gay man or as a lesbian, but from what I've observed it seems to me a much

I don't follow this, either logically or in practice. Granted I've never dated as a gay man or as a lesbian, but from what I've observed it seems to me a much smoother and more mutual process than straight dating. I've even heard from bi men about how much easier and less stressful it is to date men than women. AFAICT when both parties are on a level playing field, and there's not a massive asymmetry in power, interest, and investment, there's a lot less grief overall. > edit: I mean, isn't that Bumble? Bumble is a valiant attempt to fix this issue but it seems to mostly be a failure. An average man may occasionally get a message (which will usually just say "hi"), but the asymmetry in interest is still there, and it's still mostly men's responsibility to do the real initiating.