I find it interesting that the article assumes once you go polyamorous, you automatically open all the floodgates. You join the local poly scene, and tend to ma

I find it interesting that the article assumes once you go polyamorous, you automatically open all the floodgates. You join the local poly scene, and tend to make your relationship graph as densely connected as possible. Its like the caricature of what (we) straight people think gay dating must be like. Now, I have some friends who are actually like that. But I wonder, if you can't just open up your relationship a little bit and be polygamous, without going all in with the whole poly scene. I think the allure would be that it is hard to find one single person who makes you perfectly happy on every level. You might have one person that you connect with emotionally, or sexually, but you also want to connect intellectually, you want them to laugh about your jokes, and so on. Traditionally, you have one person you are married to, and fulfill the other needs though platonic friends, but this doesn't always work out. You don't want to give up the one person you really love, but you might be still missing something - and your partner might be as well! One downside that hasn't been mentioned is that you actually restrict your dating pool when you are poly. From what I've heard (personally I'm in a traditional relationship) a lot of potential dates are put off by it. Many assume you are only looking for casual sex, where you might actually be looking for a meaningful relationship, someone you can have deep discussions with, experience infatuation again, and so on.