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> Because you didn't see it then I didn't see it? Like you, I too was clarifying what I have read here on HN so that others don't misunderstand that what you r

> Because you didn't see it then I didn't see it? Like you, I too was clarifying what I have read here on HN so that others don't misunderstand that what you read is the only view on HN when it comes to SM. Now, I do support that perspective - not using FB or WhatsApp has only proved to be a minor irritant for me simply because I work on my relationships the old fashioned - I keep in touch regularly through calls / SMS / email / in person, enquire about their well-being, share my feelings and experiences, and offer support when needed. This happened because I changed as I grew older - I started prioritising improving quality over quantity of relationship, and I found social media to be hindrance for this. Moreover, the privacy benefits of not using social media hugely outweigh any value that social media platforms offers. > You know people that are willing to do that. I know people who aren't or can't. Sure, I have faced similar issues - for e.g. when I ask someone to share some photos, and they learn that I don't have whatsapp, they do groan and grumble when I ask them to either email me or upload and share it. Some don't and that maybe disappointing for some moment, but you move on. If it's a big deal, you persist. Social media platforms may be the dominant way to communicate in today's world, but it is not the only way. And if you focus on improving the quality of your existing relationships, people will want to communicate with you. That works for me because I put in the slightly extra effort for that.

guerrilla 4y ago
> I found social media to be hindrance for this. Moreover, the privacy benefits of not using social media hugely outweigh any value that social media platforms offers. I found the opposite. You're still not listening and just droning on with your patronizing bullshit like everyone else. > That works for me because I put in the slightly extra effort for that. No, you just think highly of yourself by imagining you know other situations.
- webmobdev 4y ago
  I don't get why you are so upset over someone offering a different perspective to yours? We are both sharing our experiences, and neither of us needs to apologise to anyone for the choices we make. If you see my comments as patronizing, it is only because you are taking it personally. Instead, if you read it again, you will notice it actually supports your argument - that if you don't use social media, you have to put in more effort. I am willing to do that. You and others don't for your own cultural and personal reasons.

guerrilla 4y ago

> I found social media to be hindrance for this. Moreover, the privacy benefits of not using social media hugely outweigh any value that social media platforms offers. I found the opposite. You're still not listening and just droning on with your patronizing bullshit like everyone else. > That works for me because I put in the slightly extra effort for that. No, you just think highly of yourself by imagining you know other situations.

webmobdev 4y ago
I don't get why you are so upset over someone offering a different perspective to yours? We are both sharing our experiences, and neither of us needs to apologise to anyone for the choices we make. If you see my comments as patronizing, it is only because you are taking it personally. Instead, if you read it again, you will notice it actually supports your argument - that if you don't use social media, you have to put in more effort. I am willing to do that. You and others don't for your own cultural and personal reasons.