I'll be really blunt here. This has a ton of cognitive dissonance. It just doesn't make sense to be hoping for a partner to find you appealing when you don't ha

I'll be really blunt here. This has a ton of cognitive dissonance. It just doesn't make sense to be hoping for a partner to find you appealing when you don't have a circle of acquaintances, much less a circle of friends. The question is not why can't you find a partner, it's why haven't you started by making some friends? This is not a healthy thing, even if you're a guy. And it would suggest you're significantly lacking in social experience and practice, which is the foundational base for attracting a partner. Second, no, men are not so competitive that they're going to try and swoop in and steal your girl. Especially not your friends. Is that how you perceive yourself? Is it as something you would try to do given information from a friend? It reads as a big read flag. A lot of guys don't seem to understand social basics, and perceive attracting a girl as a purely mating / sexual attraction kind of dance. Hence the waves of idiots sending pictures of their penises. So many men seem to think they can almost hypnotize a woman with a projection of being a good provider mate and that's how you seal the deal. You have to start by being someone she would like to befriend.