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> will be afraid of being publicly shamed if something goes wrong > With a smartphone in every hand, one badly thought out flirting attempt, recorded and share

> will be afraid of being publicly shamed if something goes wrong > With a smartphone in every hand, one badly thought out flirting attempt, recorded and shared by an unsympathetic party This struck me as well. Women share with each other and discuss the ongoing matches, chats, and meetings. Report to each other once they notice an acquaintance in the app. One message, one foul move and it escalates you into a creep, desperate, or pervert. I don't even try approaching in real life, women don't understand how it feels like to be laughed off or ghosted, and how it can turn a man into a psychopath.

spywaregorilla 4y ago
> This struck me as well. Women share with each other and discuss the ongoing matches, chats, and meetings. Report to each other once they notice an acquaintance in the app. And you don't? That's incredibly normal. Discussing people you've just met, especially if it's a shared connection. What's wrong is that it's not a giant amorphous network of women. It's just their local social circles like anyone else. There's no conspiracy. > how it can turn a men into a psychopath. ah yes, it is the women's fault
- durnygbur 4y ago
  I don't have a circle of acquaintances to share these information and experiences with. I imagine we, men, are more competitive. Sharing would actually help the competition to take over as a gesture of dominance or simply to score as first. Is she a pervert or desperate? Well that's even better...
  - spywaregorilla 4y ago
    I'll be really blunt here. This has a ton of cognitive dissonance. It just doesn't make sense to be hoping for a partner to find you appealing when you don't have a circle of acquaintances, much less a circle of friends. The question is not why can't you find a partner, it's why haven't you started by making some friends? This is not a healthy thing, even if you're a guy. And it would suggest you're significantly lacking in social experience and practice, which is the foundational base for attracting a partner. Second, no, men are not so competitive that they're going to try and swoop in and steal your girl. Especially not your friends. Is that how you perceive yourself? Is it as something you would try to do given information from a friend? It reads as a big read flag. A lot of guys don't seem to understand social basics, and perceive attracting a girl as a purely mating / sexual attraction kind of dance. Hence the waves of idiots sending pictures of their penises. So many men seem to think they can almost hypnotize a woman with a projection of being a good provider mate and that's how you seal the deal. You have to start by being someone she would like to befriend.
moistly 4y ago
Damn, dude, you need a life skills coach and psychotherapy. It is literally crazy to make a statement like “women don't understand how it feels like to be laughed off or ghosted”, and saying “it can turn a man into a psychopath” is a claim only a psychopath would make. That you don’t even realize how bizarre your claims are, and that you’d say them out loud, is a big red warning sign. You bet your ass I’d tell any woman to stay away from you now: you seem to be dangerous. Edit: I just read your comment history. Your statements are not a red warning sign, they’re an ear-splitting air-raid klaxon with strobe lights. I fully expect you’ll make the news headlines one day.
- durnygbur 4y ago
  meh

spywaregorilla 4y ago

> This struck me as well. Women share with each other and discuss the ongoing matches, chats, and meetings. Report to each other once they notice an acquaintance in the app. And you don't? That's incredibly normal. Discussing people you've just met, especially if it's a shared connection. What's wrong is that it's not a giant amorphous network of women. It's just their local social circles like anyone else. There's no conspiracy. > how it can turn a men into a psychopath. ah yes, it is the women's fault

durnygbur 4y ago
I don't have a circle of acquaintances to share these information and experiences with. I imagine we, men, are more competitive. Sharing would actually help the competition to take over as a gesture of dominance or simply to score as first. Is she a pervert or desperate? Well that's even better...
- spywaregorilla 4y ago
  I'll be really blunt here. This has a ton of cognitive dissonance. It just doesn't make sense to be hoping for a partner to find you appealing when you don't have a circle of acquaintances, much less a circle of friends. The question is not why can't you find a partner, it's why haven't you started by making some friends? This is not a healthy thing, even if you're a guy. And it would suggest you're significantly lacking in social experience and practice, which is the foundational base for attracting a partner. Second, no, men are not so competitive that they're going to try and swoop in and steal your girl. Especially not your friends. Is that how you perceive yourself? Is it as something you would try to do given information from a friend? It reads as a big read flag. A lot of guys don't seem to understand social basics, and perceive attracting a girl as a purely mating / sexual attraction kind of dance. Hence the waves of idiots sending pictures of their penises. So many men seem to think they can almost hypnotize a woman with a projection of being a good provider mate and that's how you seal the deal. You have to start by being someone she would like to befriend.

moistly 4y ago

Damn, dude, you need a life skills coach and psychotherapy. It is literally crazy to make a statement like “women don't understand how it feels like to be laughed off or ghosted”, and saying “it can turn a man into a psychopath” is a claim only a psychopath would make. That you don’t even realize how bizarre your claims are, and that you’d say them out loud, is a big red warning sign. You bet your ass I’d tell any woman to stay away from you now: you seem to be dangerous. Edit: I just read your comment history. Your statements are not a red warning sign, they’re an ear-splitting air-raid klaxon with strobe lights. I fully expect you’ll make the news headlines one day.

durnygbur 4y ago
meh