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"Definitely the hardest year of my life, but I wouldn’t have it any other way." The last line gave me pause and catapulted me in to the reply box when I had no
by inuhj 15y ago
"Definitely the hardest year of my life, but I wouldn’t have it any other way."
The last line gave me pause and catapulted me in to the reply box when I had no intention of being here. But now that I'm here I'm going to give you my 0.02.
It is OK to regret the mistakes you've made.
There are plenty of awful things you did over the last year. Some were done with malice and some had more innocent intentions. Either way, I wouldn't accept "I'm happy where I am now" or "I've learned a lot since then" as a valid reason to not have regrets. Saying that you have no regrets shows a lack of awareness about how your actions have affected others and, in your case, borders on tasteless. You don't regret hurting her? You don't regret burning bridges with your past employer?
The reason that I write this is that I want to encourage you to not settle for aphorisms in place of real reflection about how you really feel about the last year. Your regrets shape your future. It's important to pay them their due.
- accidc 15y agooff topic but to me living with no regrets does not mean literally that. Sometimes it means not regretting just one of action/outcome. Sometimes it means knowing that you did to the best of your abilities. And sometimes it means (eventually) accepting your fallibility. e.g: not too happy about taking that chance, but happy that had the courage to take that chance.
- Swizec 15y agoI don't regret anything I did, I do regret how I did some things, but the action itself was always something that I wanted. Cheating on my girlfriend wasn't the best way to break up with her, but if that relationship was perfect I'd seek shelter in it when things got rough rather than see it as something that I also have to get rid of. Similarly for the job, if it was a good fit I wouldn't even think of quitting.