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Porn dulls people. It dulls the personality, the soul and relating to people. Your innate drive for a better romantic partner is being replaced with porn. The

Porn dulls people. It dulls the personality, the soul and relating to people. Your innate drive for a better romantic partner is being replaced with porn. The dull emptiness could be a space for envy to grow in you.

_8j50 4y ago
+1 (but that isn't a solution)
jstx1 4y ago
There's very little evidence for this. It's mostly unhealthy online communities (like some reddit subs) full of people that: A. watch porn B. have lives they don't like And falsely assume that A causes B.
- randomtwiddler 4y ago
  There is a lot of money in porn. A lot of motivation to attempt to carve out an innocent seeming narrative. I was addicted to porn for decades. I didn't always look or watch it but it was tied to lust which I fed and fed. Crawling out of the deep dark pit was hard, really hard. Probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I had a supportive spouse that supported me and helped me, which was a big help. I'm now free over 6 years and have a pretty good view. Only after I had loosed the last few hooks in my soul did I begin to see what my life was missing. How it had contributed to my shame, hollow worthlessness, and straight up selfishness. How my "love" for my spouse was a pitiful thing that finally bloomed into something real. You don't need a study too see the effects, just one person who's walked the path can tell you what they were and what's different. People who are addicted can't see what they are missing as they usually got involved so young they don't remember not feeling that way. Often they know our at least feel that something is wrong. But they can't really see the whole of it either without the real perspective of the other side. Ignore your fellows ringing the warning bells at your peril.
  - mbrodersen 4y ago
    There is a lot of money in Alcohol as well. However some people get addicted to it (“Alcoholics”). There is also a lot of money in gambling, cigarettes etc. etc. Same story.
    - randomtwiddler 4y ago
      Good examples. We still struggle with all of them as a society. Porn is arguably more impactful than all of them with it's ability to destroy marriages.
      - mbrodersen 4y ago
        It is apparently the opposite. I can’t remember where I read it but prostitution/porn actually saves marriages. Many marriages are sex-less and without an alternative a lot of marriages would collapse. Also, alcohol kills people every single day. Divorce doesn't usually do that :)
mbrodersen 4y ago
There is zero evidence for this. The same way that there is zero evidence that playing “violent” computer games turn people into serial killers. Most “known” truths talked about in the media is 100% pure BS.
- barrysteve 4y ago
  Psychology and the Spanish Inquisition share a flaw. They both cannot truly tell you the contents of a man's soul. Didn't stop the psychologists and inquisitors from trying though. What kind of evidence would satisfy you?
  - mbrodersen 4y ago
    Statistics show that youth violence decreased after video games became popular. That’s the kind of evidence that satisfies me. How about you? What would convince you that you are wrong? I have read research showing that porn actually saves marriages and reduce sex crimes. Basically because it delivers a safe way for people to satisfy their dark desires. I unfortunately don’t have links readily available to add here (didn’t expect to need it). But perhaps do a bit of research yourself and you might be surprised.
    - barrysteve 4y ago
      A reduction of desire is exactly the dulling of the soul we mean. This guy is losing motivation to find a better partner and you show statistics which support that very idea?? Porn does not satisfy, as you can tell by the OP's discontent in life. It dulls like anethesia. I can't provide satisfactory evidence, nobody can. The internal state of somebody's soul is not measurable and has to be estimated from context.
      - deterministic 4y ago
        You absolutely can measure, to some degree, the internal state of somebody’s brain (what you call “Soul”). Is the person happy or trying to commit suicide? Now there is one very rough measure of somebody’s internal brain state. Is the person constantly punishing him/herself? Now there is another. Is the person a sociopath? Another one. The last one can even be measure using a brain scanner. No need for human interpretation there. I assume you are religious (using words like “Soul”) so perhaps remember Jesus saying “You will know them by their fruit”. In other words, you can measure their “Soul” by what they do.

_8j50 4y ago

+1 (but that isn't a solution)

jstx1 4y ago

There's very little evidence for this. It's mostly unhealthy online communities (like some reddit subs) full of people that: A. watch porn B. have lives they don't like And falsely assume that A causes B.

randomtwiddler 4y ago
There is a lot of money in porn. A lot of motivation to attempt to carve out an innocent seeming narrative. I was addicted to porn for decades. I didn't always look or watch it but it was tied to lust which I fed and fed. Crawling out of the deep dark pit was hard, really hard. Probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I had a supportive spouse that supported me and helped me, which was a big help. I'm now free over 6 years and have a pretty good view. Only after I had loosed the last few hooks in my soul did I begin to see what my life was missing. How it had contributed to my shame, hollow worthlessness, and straight up selfishness. How my "love" for my spouse was a pitiful thing that finally bloomed into something real. You don't need a study too see the effects, just one person who's walked the path can tell you what they were and what's different. People who are addicted can't see what they are missing as they usually got involved so young they don't remember not feeling that way. Often they know our at least feel that something is wrong. But they can't really see the whole of it either without the real perspective of the other side. Ignore your fellows ringing the warning bells at your peril.
- mbrodersen 4y ago
  There is a lot of money in Alcohol as well. However some people get addicted to it (“Alcoholics”). There is also a lot of money in gambling, cigarettes etc. etc. Same story.
  - randomtwiddler 4y ago
    Good examples. We still struggle with all of them as a society. Porn is arguably more impactful than all of them with it's ability to destroy marriages.
    - mbrodersen 4y ago
      It is apparently the opposite. I can’t remember where I read it but prostitution/porn actually saves marriages. Many marriages are sex-less and without an alternative a lot of marriages would collapse. Also, alcohol kills people every single day. Divorce doesn't usually do that :)

mbrodersen 4y ago

There is zero evidence for this. The same way that there is zero evidence that playing “violent” computer games turn people into serial killers. Most “known” truths talked about in the media is 100% pure BS.

barrysteve 4y ago
Psychology and the Spanish Inquisition share a flaw. They both cannot truly tell you the contents of a man's soul. Didn't stop the psychologists and inquisitors from trying though. What kind of evidence would satisfy you?
- mbrodersen 4y ago
  Statistics show that youth violence decreased after video games became popular. That’s the kind of evidence that satisfies me. How about you? What would convince you that you are wrong? I have read research showing that porn actually saves marriages and reduce sex crimes. Basically because it delivers a safe way for people to satisfy their dark desires. I unfortunately don’t have links readily available to add here (didn’t expect to need it). But perhaps do a bit of research yourself and you might be surprised.
  - barrysteve 4y ago
    A reduction of desire is exactly the dulling of the soul we mean. This guy is losing motivation to find a better partner and you show statistics which support that very idea?? Porn does not satisfy, as you can tell by the OP's discontent in life. It dulls like anethesia. I can't provide satisfactory evidence, nobody can. The internal state of somebody's soul is not measurable and has to be estimated from context.
    - deterministic 4y ago
      You absolutely can measure, to some degree, the internal state of somebody’s brain (what you call “Soul”). Is the person happy or trying to commit suicide? Now there is one very rough measure of somebody’s internal brain state. Is the person constantly punishing him/herself? Now there is another. Is the person a sociopath? Another one. The last one can even be measure using a brain scanner. No need for human interpretation there. I assume you are religious (using words like “Soul”) so perhaps remember Jesus saying “You will know them by their fruit”. In other words, you can measure their “Soul” by what they do.