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Even as a white person who has lived in America his whole life, I struggle with this. I am a strong person but my instinct is to "people please" and do things i
by JohnBooty 4y ago
Even as a white person who has lived in America his whole life, I struggle with this. I am a strong person but my instinct is to "people please" and do things in a communal way.
I just think that acting communally makes more sense, so I do it. I assume that others will do the same. But they don't. As you say this can lead to negative outcomes.
- prox 4y agoI feel the article has a strong skew towards an utilitarian approach to life. Everything needs a function and a purpose and the author’s writing seems to reflect that. I guess it’s part of western culture to some extent but it’s good to know it’s not the only way and especially in polarizing times it’s good to go the other way and learn (others) about trust and a sense of belonging.
- goodpoint 4y ago> I just think that acting communally makes more sense, so I do it. I assume that others will do the same. But they don't. You are not wrong. They are the ones being selfish.
- JohnBooty 4y agoThank you, I sort of needed that this morning. Your words brightened a stranger's day by a bit.
- inkblotuniverse 4y agoWell, he's mistaken in his assumption others will act the same way as him. That's a kind of 'wrong', too- towards himself.
- goodpoint 4y agoBeing kind to other and giving them the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise is only human. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reciprocal_altruism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reciprocal_altruism
- krigath 4y agoAnd can be hugely benefitical or detrimental. Adam Grant writes about this topic in. Givers are overrepresented both among the most and among the least successful individuals. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158498-give-and-take https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158498-give-and-take