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is this a thinly veiled complaint about being hit with sexual harassment complaints? The simple trick to solve this problem is not to sexually harass your frien

is this a thinly veiled complaint about being hit with sexual harassment complaints? The simple trick to solve this problem is not to sexually harass your friends either

nickff 4y ago
Why did you make two logical leaps just to arrive at an accusation? From the HN Guidelines: " Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith. "
- eyelidlessness 4y ago
  Having backed out of including a reply with my downvote—which I seldom do, but couldn’t find a productive response in me despite some effort—I’m curious what your charitable interpretation is. I went through all of mine, and none of them reflected well on the commenter.
  - bitcurious 4y ago
    Bizarre but illustrative that I have to defend myself against a nebulous “uncharitable interpretation.” Are you free (according to corporate policy) to ask your coworkers about religion, health, romance, politics, ethnicity, etc.? I’m comfortable discussing all of the above with my friends, yet each is to some extent restricted in the professional context, either by default or with seniority.
    - MrJohz 4y ago
      Not the previous commenter, but yes? I have literally never worked in a place where talking about that has been forbidden. I mean, talking about it offensively is obviously not on the table, but I've discussed literally every single one of those with colleagues before. Is this a cultural thing? I'm from the UK, and I'm working now in Germany. Perhaps things are different in the US?
      - bitcurious 4y ago
        https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31600848 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31600848 Here is an example of how corporate risk aversion prevents authenticity.
barry-cotter 4y ago
bitcurious 4y ago
No? It’s lived experience, having seen a culture other than American, I can assure you that how most folks communicate at work is guarded, and very controlled. The folks that speak freely don’t get ahead. Your comment is a great example actually - imagine being presumed a sexual harasser because of your attitude towards tort law! I wouldn’t want my coworkers to take such leaps. Much easier to avoid the question of loneliness in America.
- Sirened 4y ago
  You say this, but this is also my lived experience. I have worked with and interacted with many who bemoaned the rise of ""PC culture"" and complained they couldn't ""make jokes anymore"" when in reality they were just getting in trouble for harassing their coworkers.

is this a thinly veiled complaint about being hit with sexual harassment complaints? The simple trick to solve this problem is not to sexually harass your friends either

nickff 4y ago

Why did you make two logical leaps just to arrive at an accusation? From the HN Guidelines: " Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith. "

eyelidlessness 4y ago
Having backed out of including a reply with my downvote—which I seldom do, but couldn’t find a productive response in me despite some effort—I’m curious what your charitable interpretation is. I went through all of mine, and none of them reflected well on the commenter.
- bitcurious 4y ago
  Bizarre but illustrative that I have to defend myself against a nebulous “uncharitable interpretation.” Are you free (according to corporate policy) to ask your coworkers about religion, health, romance, politics, ethnicity, etc.? I’m comfortable discussing all of the above with my friends, yet each is to some extent restricted in the professional context, either by default or with seniority.
  - MrJohz 4y ago
    Not the previous commenter, but yes? I have literally never worked in a place where talking about that has been forbidden. I mean, talking about it offensively is obviously not on the table, but I've discussed literally every single one of those with colleagues before. Is this a cultural thing? I'm from the UK, and I'm working now in Germany. Perhaps things are different in the US?
    - bitcurious 4y ago
      https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31600848 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31600848 Here is an example of how corporate risk aversion prevents authenticity.

barry-cotter 4y ago

bitcurious 4y ago

No? It’s lived experience, having seen a culture other than American, I can assure you that how most folks communicate at work is guarded, and very controlled. The folks that speak freely don’t get ahead. Your comment is a great example actually - imagine being presumed a sexual harasser because of your attitude towards tort law! I wouldn’t want my coworkers to take such leaps. Much easier to avoid the question of loneliness in America.

Sirened 4y ago
You say this, but this is also my lived experience. I have worked with and interacted with many who bemoaned the rise of ""PC culture"" and complained they couldn't ""make jokes anymore"" when in reality they were just getting in trouble for harassing their coworkers.