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I'm guessing maybe you don't have kids? By the time my kid was 12 months old, I was emotionally attached enough that losing her would've been a life-destroying
by bonniemuffin 4y ago
I'm guessing maybe you don't have kids? By the time my kid was 12 months old, I was emotionally attached enough that losing her would've been a life-destroying level of devastation. I don't think your thought exercise works, because losing a year-old kid is such a horrible tragedy for the parents.
- NateEag 4y agoFor many, many parents, losing an unborn kid to a miscarriage is a tragedy, too. Not as hard as losing a one-year-old, I'm pretty sure, but also not just a blip.
- bonniemuffin 4y agoYep, I totally agree. Terminating a much-wanted pregnancy for medical reasons is also tragic. There's no good way to lose a child.
- dane-pgp 4y agoI'm glad that you were emotionally attached to your child when they were 12 months old, and that is completely normal. I apologise if I gave the impression that I thought parents would find it easy to lose a child at that age. The point of my thought experiment, though, was not to imagine what a parent would do, but what someone with a terminal diagnose would wish their parents had done. I accept that this is not an easy thing to talk about, nor are there any easy answers, so I'm not trying to start an argument. If someone wants to think about it, they can, and it's just a difficult hypothetical that came to my mind when I read the original comment.