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A talented writer. It was really eye opening and easy to read obese person's account of how he feels. I'm not such, never was, though middle age is catching up

by mndgs 4y ago

A talented writer. It was really eye opening and easy to read obese person's account of how he feels. I'm not such, never was, though middle age is catching up with me and my BMI is creeping up. We are same height, not the same weight. For what is worth , not obese are also not happy with how their body looks. Frankly, I think I stopped worrying what others think of how I look. It's the same as what others think of what I think. They can have their opinion, but it's me who's living my life, not them. And why would I want to care what they think about it? Health, quality of life and its length is what counts though. What you described was partly unknown to me. I wish you could improve that for yourself, feel that joy of accomplishment. Ps: I also often catch myself daydreaming about shooting threes or twos. But I only see the shape of my arm, that hand motion which makes the ball spin after releasing it.. it's beautiful. Probably, I'm just getting older reminiscing the young days...

smokey_circles 4y ago
Excellent points > why would I care what others think about Because you're a social creature and evolution cursed us with self awareness. There are things not worth concerning yourself over, but this is like telling someone to just not be depressed: it doesn't work (generically) like that. Also, if I may, why must I pick up the medical bill (in any form) because someone can't choose to not eat a double big Mac with extra fries, regardless of the sugar free drink? I don't think it's as easy as "shame these people until they fall in line" (I did have this view) because there are other, surprising factors involved (poverty being the one that surprised me the most). But we can, and should, extoll the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. One of them is a greater self satisfaction [0] 0: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7789197/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7789197/

by mndgs 4y ago

smokey_circles 4y ago

Excellent points > why would I care what others think about Because you're a social creature and evolution cursed us with self awareness. There are things not worth concerning yourself over, but this is like telling someone to just not be depressed: it doesn't work (generically) like that. Also, if I may, why must I pick up the medical bill (in any form) because someone can't choose to not eat a double big Mac with extra fries, regardless of the sugar free drink? I don't think it's as easy as "shame these people until they fall in line" (I did have this view) because there are other, surprising factors involved (poverty being the one that surprised me the most). But we can, and should, extoll the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. One of them is a greater self satisfaction [0] 0: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7789197/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7789197/