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> If you ARE a victim, then it's delusional not to feel as such. Spot on. Additionally, modern neurology has proven that people experiencing stress and anxiety
by goodpoint 4y ago
> If you ARE a victim, then it's delusional not to feel as such.
Spot on. Additionally, modern neurology has proven that people experiencing stress and anxiety for years risk loss of cognitive abilities and long-term emotional harm. This is not something that you can just shake away with some "positive affirmations" and walk in a park.
This kind of narrative blames people who are facing learned helplessness.
Even if you are not a victim - but you are unhappy for any other reason it's crucial to recognize and address it. Recognizing it is step one in order to overcome it.
Unfortunately some cultures tolerated decades of hustle culture / rugged individualism to the point of becoming unable to admit difficulties.
This is psychology 101 and it's really telling that HN downvotes you and me instead.
- s1artibartfast 4y agoThe main problem is when people who are legitimately a victim in one situation or one aspect of their life loose perspective and let this dominate their self identity and world view. The only solution to irrational learned helplessness is to reframe your mental model. It can be difficult to get back to a healthy mental state, and some people need help. That said, feeling a helpless victim is a terrible way to go through life, and usually far worse than the original harm.
- goodpoint 4y agoGoing through the victim stage and then the survivor stage is part of the healing process. Yet the article and most comments blame people for going through the victim stage. This is like "Did your mother die last week? Grief is disastrous!"
- s1artibartfast 4y agoSomething can be natural and understandable but also unhealthy and self destructive. I think the point is to remind that the state of victimhood, and paralysis that comes with it is not a healthy end state.